my gf is about to break up w/me bc i dont wanna have sex.we r only 15 and i plan on waiting until im at least 18.if she breaks up wa/me she'll b the 2nd tht has done tht to me for the same reason.why dont girls like guys tht r virgins?or is there just something wrong w/me?
2006-11-01 11:29:55 · 49 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with you. I think if a girl is trying to pressure you into having sex when you don't' want to then she is not the right one for you.
2006-11-01 11:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Glee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe,
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and I completely respect your convictions to wait, In reality that is the right thing to do. Sex often confuses things, and due to the fact that it only takes one time to get pregnant and condoms are not 100% proof. Its a risk thats really not worth taking (in my opinion).
Now you have to think about the world that we are living in right now and how Sexually explicit ads, movies, songs, even fast food commercials are bombarding us all of the time. So some people get their thinking twisted and they began to assume that if they are not in the(sex) club, that they are rejects. So they look for anyone to either make them a member by taking their virginity or someone to just continually add to their promiscuity.
You sound like a young man that has his mind on tight, and has made a conscious decision to live out his morals. If these young ladies really had a brain they would realize that a Guy like you is a rare find!! Not because your a virgin, but because you care enough about yourself and others to not be ruled by society and teen pressure.
You also have to remember how young minded and easily influenced these girls must be if they would actually break up with a guy for NOT having sex with them. What does that say about them and the content of their charachter as a teen.
You don't need to be with anyone that is like that, For future reference maybe you can lay it on the line when you start dating girls that you are not interested in having sex until you are 18 or older, that might help weed out some of the Hoochies & heartbreakers that are only out for themselves.
Which would allow you to hopefully find a more meaningful relationship with a young lady that has interests and convictions much like your own.
Let them leave, remember its their insecurities not yours, so don't let yourself take the blame, Its not that they don't like you, in reality its that they don't like themselves and they feel that sex would somehow validate them or compensate the love that they are actually searching for, but little do they know that it can Only be found with God.
Yeah this world is sad, and I just want you to know that I appreciate you sticking to your guns and staying true to yourself.
I hope that this information was helpful to you and once Again keep doing what your doing, I'm proud of You!
2006-11-01 11:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Just My Thoughts... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You have set your standards and are following them regardless of the pressure you are under. You are to be commended.
Girls at your age get love and sex mixed up. They think they are one and the same. If you won't have sex with them you must not love them so they think they need to move on.
Of course they are wrong. One has nothing to do with the other. Sex should be the icing on the cake after you are in love and only after you know what you are doing with your life.
And no one should ever have sex until they know what they are doing. The problems that it presents when she gets pregnant is tremendous and especially for her.
To have sex demands responsibility. So many people have had their whole future change in one night. You are wise to stick to your guns. If you find a girl that agrees with you then you have found someone worth going with.
Don't give it up. You will never be sorry you did but if you do agree to have it you may very well regret it.
2006-11-01 11:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Justin you have a smart head on your shoulders!!!!!!!!! you should give props to your mother for raising a child with an attitude like yours...you're doing the right thing...and in answer to your question women mature faster than men so A.they could be virgins themselves & are ready to take that step and want a man with expirence or B.you're just to irristable for your own age..or C.they are pre-teen dic riders whose only future ambition is to become video girl street hookers either way if they cant respect your desicions then just let them go..good luck with everything...and i wish more young men your age had that same outlook
2006-11-01 11:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by @ubreY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you if you want to wait then wait. If female want to be like that then you can tell were they may be head in the future Babies R US. So if you want to be a virgin don't make yourself feel bad be happy that you are not out there. When you are ready then you will know.
2006-11-01 11:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lexie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply put, you haven't found a girl that loves you for who you are. no offense but they seem a little lusty and trying to be "in-trend" with having sex with their partners.
lets reverse the question. why would you want to like girls who are not virgins or dont seem to give a damn to their virginity?
because you had probably liked them for what they are. 15? you are still young and able to go out with a lot more girls.
even if you happen to "do it" before you reach 18, at least let it be with a girl who was worth your time and heart.
2006-11-01 11:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no nothing is wrong with you. you are one of the very few smart guys, i personally never had a boyfriend that was a virgin.
I think it would be a nice change, focused more on personality and interests than sex.
I think you should stick to your guns, you will meet a great girl one day and that would make her very happy knowing you're standereds are so high and that you have great morals.
congrats! I wish there were more guys like you.
2006-11-01 11:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 15 to and i would rather date someone who is a virgin and wait till i get married. There's nothing wrong with you and not all girls are like that just a select few.
2006-11-01 11:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Caiti 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you are more mature then some 18 yr olds. If your girlfriend can't respect your wishes then let her go. It takes a real man to say he wants to wait and you are not alone in your thinking. Stay true to yourself and everything will work out.
2006-11-01 11:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by goaliegirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
obviously your girlfriend is a whore. that is what you call a whore. so stop dating whores. you are a good kid, and you should wait if you feel like waiting for the right girl. dont just give it up on some skank like that. make sure she's a good person and you love her..there aren't a lot of guys out there that think like you especially at a young age, so you are a good catch and dont waste your time on trash like that.
2006-11-01 11:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋