My 3 1/2 year old son has been potty trained for at least six months. In the past two days he has peed in his pants three times -- each time claiming its an accident but really he just did not want to stop playing or stop watching his movie. How do I get through to him that he needs to stop what he is doing and use the potty? For background, he attends preschool three days a week, it never happens at school, and he has a 14-month-old sister. This is driving us (mom and dad) a litle crazy so any suggestions welcome!
Thanks.
2006-11-01 11:27:45 · 15 answers · asked by I'm Trying 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First of all, check with his doctor to rule out a bladder infection. Often times children regress with new changes in their lives. Could it be because of his sister or other changes (move, new school, family issues, stress)? If so, give your son lots of extra love and support.
Children will resort to having accidents in order to feel powerful. Help him to feel powerful in positive ways by saying thing like "You did that by yourself!" "You can run super fast!" "Look how high you can jump!" "You used so many colors on your painting." These phrases are great confidence boosters, are great ways for you to show love and attention, and great ways for him to feel powerful in a positive way.
Don't let him know that you have and issue with this. If you insist, he will resist because he is in control. When he has and "accident," don't give it much attention. Say "It looks like you need to change." He can remove his wet clothing, rinse them out, put them in a bag in the laundry, clean any wet area, and put on dry clothing. It won't take him long to learn it is much easier to use the bathroom. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-11-01 11:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-24 19:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Potty Trained Toddler Having Accidents
2016-11-16 06:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 1/2 year old as well....
This happened a few times. We got the DVD of Bear in the Big Blue House (Potty Time). It is an excellent DVD. I watched it with him and gave encouraging words all the way through it.... "Wow - see how they needed to stop their game to use the potty...what a good mouse!"
In the DVD, the mouse has to stop his game of chess to use the potty and ends up winning the game. Ojo (baby bear) ends up having an accident and Bear reminds him that "if you THINK you have to go the bathroom, you probably do....so just GO!"
Bear says things that are good lines for you to repeat when the accidents do happen. Not making a big deal about the accidents is important. If you make a big deal, it could easily turn into an attention-getter.
I know it can be frustrating, but be patient and you can work through this with your son!
2006-11-01 11:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by curiousRO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may sound gross, but let him sit in the wet underwear for a while. Don't let him on the furniture or other things you'll have to clean up afterwards, but let him sit wet. It's terribly uncomfortable and nasty. He'll hate it and realize that wetting his pants does not get desirable results. That'll make him stop. Then when he makes it through an entire day without wetting again be sure to give tons of positive attention and love. He'll surely stick with what brings him positive attention.
2006-11-01 12:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is almost 3 and he has been potty trained for awhile also and every night about the same time he seems to potty in his pants. But I also just had another baby. So I think that that is the problem. I know it's very frustrating. When he playing just try to stop him and say "do you need to potty." That away you can remind him if he does need to go and maybe prevent it.
2006-11-01 11:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son went through a period like this...He was usually fighting a cold or just tired. I have heard of other kids just having phases like this...maybe a bit of regression. He is only 3 1/2 ...My son didn't master potty training until 3 1/2!!! Good luck...
2006-11-01 11:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my kids both went through this and with a little patience grew out of it. my five year old is still a pee laugher and we have just accepted this. the big thing is that if you get real angry you may say something you regret and it could cause wetting problems for a lot longer if it becomes a psychological thing
2006-11-01 11:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-17 06:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to reinforce the reward system....my son who turned 3 in march did the same thing about a month ago....sorry mum..its an accident.....i started giving him a treat everytime he went again and it is now all good....only took a day or so......
another reason could be for attention....any attention is good attention in their eyes...so maybe he may feel like his little sis is getting more.....i also have a 21month daughter.....it can be real juggle.....but its all good
toilet training is always about praise and you should avoid punishment or negative scolding when he has an accident.....believe me i know its hard but praise really does work better.....
2006-11-01 11:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by askaway 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋