ive been with this guy for about a year or more.and he still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend family who passed away and doesnt tell me about it i feel he isnt moving on ...not sure if they even know about me . I sometimes feel like he wishes she was still here rather than me being with him....he even kept photos of her and albums that i had to finally tell him bothered me and he has now donesomething with them out of my view after many discussions about it ......i just feel liiike im not enough am i over reacting?
2006-11-01 11:25:51 · 5 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess it depends on how long it has been since she died...and how long they were together before that. Death is a traumatic experience, especially for those closest to the person, which generally a boyfriend is. He may not be over her, or he might feel guilt for moving on to you, and feels like he has to make it up to her family somehow. Maybe you ought to ask him for an honest answer....
2006-11-01 11:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he still loves her and he's not ready to move on.
You can either stay with him and allow him to deal with his grief in his own way..... or if that's too hard for you to do you may have to leave him.
He wasn't ready to fully commit to a new relationship and he really shouldn't have gotten involved with you.
Sorry.
2006-11-01 19:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one!
You have got to let him grieve and he has to have his memories but at the same time he should treat you with the respect you deserve.
I am sorry, I don't know where I stand on this one.
Good luck girl!
2006-11-01 19:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still think he should be friend's with her and her family, but i mean if he has hour long phone calls and a lot of pictures of her that's just a little suspicious. I would do a little snooping around and see what he's up too.
2006-11-01 19:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Caiti 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he was probably in love and is useing you as a way to cope with that. has he told yo uhe loves you? do you have a good relationship? tell him how you feel and he should understand.... if he dosen't then thats that.
2006-11-01 19:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rachael Ranae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋