He is a fitness instructer and I can tell he is very attracted to me, I don't want to do anything i shouldn't do because i am married (not always been happy) but I want to stay faithful. I have never flirted with him or anything. I just feel so guilty i guess. I am a christian and know what God says. I'm just finding this hard to deal with can you advise what I should do
2006-11-01 11:12:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I love the gym and cannot avoid him but i want to be able to learn to deal with this without running away
2006-11-01 11:13:52 · update #1
all my conversations with him are about my kids and husband already
2006-11-01 11:19:47 · update #2
i think you should be flattered
there is nothing wrong with someone finding you attractive and i am sure you are strong enough in your relationship not to let it affect that
just because you are Christian doesnt mean others cant look at you and find you beautiful
so smile at him and let it go and go home to your husband with a bigger smile because he has a beautiful woman xx
2006-11-01 11:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you feeling guilty, if you haven't flirted with him? Has he been flirting with you? If so, just explain to him that you are married and aren't interested in anything.
If you're feeling guilty maybe because you find him attractive too, there is nothing to feel bad about. You are married, but not dead. It's ok to look and talk, just don't act on your attraction.
If you don't think you can trust yourself, change your schedule so you're never there when the instructor is there, or sign up an another gym.
2006-11-01 19:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by smiling_nonstop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hesitate to let him know by the way you act. A man should not be making advances at a married woman. Some people take a few hard knocks. Try it nicely at first, if he's too pushy, then you might have to be a little rude.
2006-11-01 19:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You failed to mention if this attraction works both ways.
If it does I suggest you stop going to the gym.
If not then just pretend that you don't notice. Make a point of saying things about your husband and kids. This is enough to get most guys to back off.
Love and blessings Don
2006-11-01 19:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only responsible for your own actions and feelings. If you are doing nothing to encourage him there is nothing to feel guilty about be you christian or not.
Get a walkman and don't make eye contact.:)
2006-11-01 19:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by touristonearth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the 6th Commandment that states simply but firmly, " Thou shalt not commit adultery."
Tell him that you are happily married. And tell him straight to the face "Please stay away from me. Look for another girl who is single and unattached. I'm already taken and I love my husband very, very much.. Let's just be friends."
2006-11-01 19:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ely C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says to flee evil temptation-that is run away. I would put some distance between you and the instructor-now.
2006-11-01 19:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should this be a problem? You need to be very strong and tell him you're married and to buzz off. What is there to be bashful about?
2006-11-01 19:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
what part of the marriage ceremony did you not get? You're married, that means not available. Ignore him!
2006-11-01 19:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, the more pressure he puts on you, the less you will like or respect him--you'll do the right thing, even if it involves a knee to the groin
2006-11-01 19:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋