That I cheated on him?? We've been together since high school and we're 21 now. But the other guy went to high school with us too. My bf and I had a HUGE fight and I went to a bar and called him, b/c we're friends....... well, things happened and now I feel REALLY guilty and I can't even look my bf in the eyes. this was loke 2 weeks ago, and I don't know what to do. If I do tell my bf, I don't want to change my relationshpi with either guy, b/c I love them both...... (in diffrent ways though) and I don't want to loose either one of them.............
Please, I kinda need some REAL advice (don't just call me a whore).
Thank You
2006-11-01 11:11:17 · 25 answers · asked by *~aMy~* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whore
2006-11-01 11:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Devil 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is hard to answer but how close are your bf and the other guy? I think that you should tell him but tell him soon because one day both of you will get in an argument and it may come out in anger. That is worse then just tell him up front. Only you know how things hurt him so you have to figure out a way to tell him without hurting him. You should maybe ask him to listen to you completely before he judges you, that way you can explain your side of the story. Then right before you finish say something like can we talk about this. I just hope that he is an understanding person. I hope that I helped?
2006-11-01 11:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lexie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyway, your question isnt really important to me right now, but im sure somebody else cares about all that crap - I need to know something really important though. I was at K-Mart yesterday buying vacuum bags and toilet paper, i noticed one of those machines you put quarters in to and it has a claw you can control to grab stuff, well i got the claw stuck on some crap at the bottom or something because it didnt come back up, i got the number off the machine and its serial number the company said they were bankrupt and no longer serviced the machines, do i have the right to sue them? Anyway besides that I'm looking for a 1979 Chevy Super Duty Van, do you know where i could get one? Or atleast some tires for it? Im not really rich, i spent all my money in ENRON and i dont know what to do with my life now, kbye
2006-11-01 11:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you tell your bf or not, your relationship will change. If you do not tell him, then the guilt will eat you alive. If you tell him than he may leave. Of course it is going to change his relationship with the other guy too. Your bf has been betrayed by two people that he trusted. It will take him a long time to get over it (if he ever does). He deserves to know the truth, no matter what the outcome.
2006-11-01 11:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by tollerx2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf did the same thing to me except we never got in a big fight. she just met a really good friend while i was away one time and things happened. Fact is you can't have the best of both. Thats just being selfish and not being fair to either guy. You should break up with your bf b/c you did bad towards him and you will always feel some guilt if you truly love him. its hard but you have to do it. its the best way.
2006-11-01 11:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by bartathalon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you screwed up. At this point you really don't have the luxury of having your cake and eating it too. I know, it sucks. You really owe it to your boyfriend to tell him the truth and hope he doesn't hear it through the grapevine first. Hopefully, he will eventually be able to get past it and you two can still be together. If not then maybe the other guy will be willing to have you provided you don't do it to him also.
It may be hard and you are probably gonna get hurt but you need to fess up and air out those skeletons girl!!
2006-11-01 11:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by april_fay21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your BF. And then call off your friendship with this other guy if you really want to make it work out with your BF. If you keep them both in your life, you will loose your BF because of this, and when you don't hook up with the other guy he will leave you too.
2006-11-01 11:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to call you a whore but i will say that you can't have your cake and eat it too. If you tell your boyfriend what happened do you really think that he is going to want you to be around that other guy, shi* he might not even want to be with you anymore, i would say keep your mouth shut unless this indiscretion is keeping you up at night but be prepared for the consequences.
2006-11-01 11:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by T.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve got a pretty big problem. ofcourse youre NOT a bad person you just lost controll and got with another guy. now if youo like them both very much then ou have to choose., but if yoyu went with the other guy jsut cuz you were mad than tell ur bf and make sure he knows that you LOVE him. to choose t=just think....who is nicer, who do you love more, you gives you more satisfaction in bed, who treats you the way you want to be treated?
but do the right thing otherwise you could lose both f them forever
2006-11-01 11:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a whore it's just that people make mistakes, in my opinion you should tell your boifriend that you cheated on him but since you like the other guy too...thats pretty a sticky situation.Be with the one you really want to be with, you can't choose both
2006-11-01 11:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Imani♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should definately tell your boyfriend. If you don't it's just guna get to you and make you feel more guilty about it and that could cause even more problems in your relationship. I think you should tell him and hope for the best. You can't have a good relationship if your not honest.
2006-11-01 11:13:51 · answer #11 · answered by Amber F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋