I need advice...?

Question

Mmkay so here's the deal. There's this guy...let's call him Josh. And I have a friend who's friends with him (She'll be Jackie, mmkay?). So, I've liked Josh all through last year. We used to talk a lot in our classes last year. But sometime around January I did something that I'm guessing upset him (Although, in my opinion and my friends' opinions it wasn't a big deal) I tried a billion times to get him to forgive me, but he totally refused to. We stopped talking after what happened. And this year we don't even have classes together, so it's like we're total strangers. (But I go to a semi-small school so I pass him going to classes a lot)

When Jackie asked him if he was mad at me, he told her that he hated me. Then later he said he disliked me, not hated me. Then about a month later when asked again he said he hated me. Then when she asked if he was still mad, around April, he said he didn't really care anymore. (So I guess he was neutral about it?) [continued in the edit]

Jackie told me (This was sometime around May when she told me, which I was a little mad at her for not telling me earlier) that she had had this conversation with Josh earlier around November:

Josh: Do you [Insert my name]?
Jackie: Mmhmm.
Josh: Oh, I like her.

She said that she didn't tell me because it would be like telling him that I liked him. But Josh and Jackie aren't the closest friends in the world, even though they are friends, which makes me think that he only said this in a she's-a-nice-person-and-classmate kind of way, y'know?

Then, yesterday, Jackie was asking him about something and mentioned an inside joke between her, me, and another one of our friends. When she said my name, he said that he regreted what happened last year.

Not to sound egotistic or anything, but do you think he might have used to like me/still likes me (If he used to)/is starting to like me? It kind of sounds like it to me, but that just may be because I liked him before.

Also, I'm not sure if this helps, but like I said before I haven't talked to him for months. So today as I was walking down the hall (I was only a few feet away) I saw him keep looking back at me. So I went up a tapped him on the shoulder, and said hi. He simply said, "Hey [Insert my name here]", but he sounded really happy.

natalieagonzales - I did back off. I've been ignoring/avoiding him the last few months of school last year, and this year (until today). Also, I'd rather not talk about what happened. (It's a REALLY long story.)

Answer 1

i think he likes try to be friedns wit heim and get closer and closer as time goes bye

Answer 2

OK, lots of you worring about how he feels about you. He needs to get over it, if you said you were sorry and your friend needs to stop asking him and you need to chill out. If you really like him and him you, it would have resolved. If you just want to be friends then write him a not telling him so and that you are sorry, you have changed in the year that has gone by and you'd like to still be friends with him if possible and make it clear that you have to be completely forgiven and not be feeling bad about it again. It's in his ball park and if you really like him and want more, then I think that is another thing. If the trust was really broken, it may always be you on the down low as far as he goes and he may never really trust you again ever...so, if you can live with that go for it. If not, let him go already, please. Get on with your life and see where that leads you. Good luck.

Answer 3

I can't really know but you can try talking to him again;) say hello, ask him how he's been and apologize again, just by saying hey I'm sorry for last year's incident, I don't know what got to me or something like that and hopefully up from there you two will get talking just like before, and maybe later he can show his true feelings;) lol hope it works out all right!:D

Answer 4

basically he doesnt give a sh*t about you and wants you to stop asking and stop having your friends ask him if he cares or not. If he did care he would be going out of his way to talk to you. Time heals everything, maybe you just need to completely back off for awhile. Absence makes the heart grow founder so if you want him to pay attention to you, you have to go on and let him see you've moved on. Strong women are attractive to men. GOOD LUCK!

P.S. what did you do that pissed him off?

Answer 5

Mmmkay- your question was long, but you should be a writer. This was very entertaining and made me laugh. You're good with dialog and very witty. Maybe don't waste so much time on this drama and think about writing the next "Friends" or something.

Answer 6

So what do you need advice on? This guy doesn't like you and is no doubt annoyed with the people that keep bothering him with how he feels about you. Why do you even care? Tell your friends to never ask him again, leave it alone. He doesnt care about you, why do you care about him?

Answer 7

If he is really hate you,than there are very rare chances exist.Just forget everything you have with him.Hate is much dangerous than Love-madness or likeliness.

Answer 8

ok umm it sounds like he's playing hard to get.i think you'll jhave to do a lot of things to impress him grl. Good Luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

wow you must have really done something to him for him to hate you that long.

I would forget it and move on. its been a long time now.

Answer 10

wow that gave me a headache...talk to him about it and if he gives u a hard time jusyt forget it