My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year now. He is a complete workaholic. He works 7 days a week. This weekend is my birthday, and I asked if he would take it off to actually spend some time with me. He has decided to work, and I am not to sure what to do about this subject. I care about him with all my heart, but I have been having alot of doubts lately. If anyone could help me in this fact I would greatly appreciate it!!
2006-11-01 10:49:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he misses your birthday, I'm sure there will be other disappointments as well. Hang out with your friends, and have a good time.
I guess it depends on why he works so much. Is he doing it so he can support the 2 of you? Does he use work as an escape? Does he just really love his job? Is this a requirement of the job?
Have a talk with him, and say you would like to spend more time with him. You are having doubts because he is not reassuring you that you are important with his time.
2006-11-01 10:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have been together almost a year and he is deciding to work instead of spend time with you on your birthday. That is a slap in the face. Poor thing, that must hurt. I'm sorry you are going through this. If I were you, I would not make any rash decisions just yet. Sometimes anger and pain make us do things we regret. I would sit him down and let him know how much this hurts you and that you are having doubts. If he disregards your feelings like he is disregarding your birthday. Then it is confirmed that he just doesn't care, and it would be best to move on. But who knows, he just might understand and you could have a communication break-through! Either way, its best to talk :) Hope this helped!
2006-11-01 18:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first step is to have a serious discussion with him about this. See if he's willing to give a little. If he isn't, you need to decide at that point if this is something you can live with. Imagine a future where you see very little of your mate. Is that something you're okay with? If yes, then try to deal with it the best you can. Maybe try to fill your life with your own projects, friends, etc. If the answer is no, move on.
2006-11-01 19:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u care abt him and he cares abt u u will understand y he has to work. No doubt he cares for u but let it go. He may even surprise u by making it up to u. Dnt jump to conclusions.
2006-11-01 18:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess there's just two things you can do, leave or just cope with him...he was a workaholic then, so what makes you think that you can change him...LOVE, then hang on dear..
2006-11-01 18:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever have to settle. If you're needs are not being met, then talk to him about it. If he doesnt care, then let him go.
2006-11-01 18:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by IkeandTina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋