I met the love of my life when i was 17 yrs old, now i am 27 and have borne three boys. I have since started college for a more meaningful life for all of us, but the main reason being for going to college was my partner was diagnosed with Huntington Disease about three yrs ago, i am not a single parent but i feel i am obliged to make a career for the sake of our boys because it seems i won't always have their dad around,.......Am i burying dad before his time or am i doing the right thing for our family?
2006-11-01 10:37:49 · 6 answers · asked by flippling flishy 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
i think your doing the right thing. your trying to ensure you can provide for your family if the worst happens. i find that admirable
2006-11-01 10:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im very proud of you, you are putting your children first, and thats all thats asked of any mother.
You have faced the reality of this illness, and to be honest, without sounding harsh, if you want to go to college, you are better off doing it now while you can, because as you know your partner is going to deteriorate at some point, and you are going to want to be his carer, looking after him.
Its the best thing, you are putting in some groundwork for a future for your children, and im sure your partner would agree with you.
I think its definitely best to do it now, once your partner starts to experience the sad affects of this disease, you are going to be concentrating on him an aful lot. Once he has passed, you are going to be going through the grieving process which will take some time, during which you need some focus in your life, and having the qualifications to get a career going is going to be a massive help, it will put your mind at ease knowing you wont have to worry about providing for the kids.
Sorry if I seemed blunt, but you seem to have accepted what is happening and being proactive, so i didnt want to pussyfoot around the issue. I also lost my dad to cancer, so I know a bit about preparing yourself for facing the realities of life without someone you love.
Big hugs. xxxxx
2006-11-01 18:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not burying any body - that for sure so stop blame yourself.It's just you have that type of situation that you do need to act. I having that now myself (not exactly, but pretty much the same). I wish you and your husband long and fulfilled life with all support possible when it's needed.And your decision is not about career at all.
2006-11-01 18:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Everona97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing. It seems wrong, but it`s a fact that you have to make plans for your family`s future. What does your husband think? I hope that you can support each other. Good luck.
2006-11-01 18:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being very very practical, and thinking about yours and your children's long term future. I am sure your partner appreciates you thinking of it too, as he then won't have to worry about how you will manage financially. I think Mike here has missed the point entirely... you wouldn't have to think about this situation if your husband was healthy, its the knowledge of his condition that has pushed you to look so far to the future.
Very best of luck to you. :-)
2006-11-01 18:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by katy1pm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you are already giving up hope. You need to ask whether you would have done the same thing if he was healthy.
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2006-11-01 18:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mike D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋