I have a situation... I am a divorced single mom of two babygirls. My oldest is seven and my babygirl just turned two. I have been with my bf for eight months now. He has major mood swings and complains about everything. He also is very verbally violent when we argue and does it in front of my girls.He makes almost double what I do and he thinks giving me a hundred dollars a week for the bills is sufficient. I don't feel the same about him as I used to. He favors my two year old more than my seven year old and I feel that this bothers her. She told my mom that she doesn't like him very much. I think I settled because I was a single mom and lonely. But I have found out that I can do everything by myself. I am very attractive but for some reason always attract bad men. He has two vehicles. One is a truck that he bought from my dad and the other is his Acura aka so called "Project car". Once he gets that fixed he can leave. But how do I keep things calm until he does?
2006-11-01 10:34:34 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no no no!!! if u say u can make things on ur own now then do it... do not wait until he "fixes" the project car... honey kick his @$$ to the curb now.. it will only worsen and hurt u and the lil 7 year old... he knew u had not only one baby but 2...
2006-11-01 10:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been cheated on by every guy that I have been with for more than 6 months...4 total. (7 years, 6 months, 3 years, 14 months). It was never ONE moment that caused me to leave...it was more of a continuous break down of my spirit. I'd like to say that I was strong and up and left but I was a weak person with no confidence and no hope. I stayed with most for longer than ANYONE should have. I started to think "it must be me"...why else would they all cheat. It wasn't until I was 29 that I realized it wasn't me but the kinds of guys I dated. Due to be raised by an alcoholic I had never dated a guy that WASN'T an alcoholic. Alcoholism comes with MANY layers of other problems and I believe that's why my relationships were so unhealthy. It took ALOT of alone time and searching but I do believe now that I am at my peak potential and don't think I could put up with any of that garbage anymore. It's hard to say at what point a person should leave...I just tell people that when you've had enough and reached your limit you will leave. It will still be hard as hell but in the end it'll be SO much better!
2016-05-23 07:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot his behind to the curb. He is beating you down, and mentally abusing you. He will next physically abuse you, and I would watch that he does not do anything to your younger child, that could be a sign and maybe not. You have been with him for 8 months, you don't know this man so do not leave him alone with your younger kid, if he is favors her. Just because he has material things don't mean anything in this world. You sound like you were impressed with what he has. You say he pays you 100$$ a month for bills? that is nothing and what does he do for a living? is it legal? put the pieces together and do alittle digging into his back ground. If he is up to snuff get rid of him, and find yourself a man that will take care of you, for you and not what is between your legs.
2006-11-01 11:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by get the facts right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you are always attracted to bad men..well honey, how is that working out for you? Not to good is it? So you need to change. This guy isn't only bad for you and your aura, but also for your babies. Your children need to be raised in a healthy environment. With as crazy as this world is, don't let it come into the place they see as security. This guy has got to change or got to go. The ball is in your court..make a shot using your intuition rather than your emotions..you have to be logical when you make the call here..good luck
2006-11-01 10:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by wizardburg28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out now before something happens. Who knows when the verbal violence may turn in to physical violence. You don't want to take any chances where your children are concerned.
2006-11-01 10:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by jblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to worry about what is best for your kids, not you. Be lonely and raise them without forcing them into your bad relationships with men. Get him out now.
2006-11-01 10:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by IkeandTina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbally violent is still abuse. Send him and his cars packing. Protect yourself and your kids.
2006-11-01 10:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait,kick his @ss to the curb,w/ his project car.
2006-11-01 10:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't give you any money if they aren't his kids...ur lucky he gives you 100 a week
2006-11-01 10:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋