My best friend is a guy the same age I am and he literally loves me. I don't have that strong feelings for him but I do find him a little bit attractive. The thing is that sometimes I want to take the things further and sometimes I don't....basically I don't know what I want. Guys find me attractive but somehow it never ends up in a serious relationship....and I need a guy:)what should I do?
2006-11-01 10:20:33 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW! This is CRAZY! I am in the exact, I mean exact same situation! I have a guy friend (best friend at that) and he is a little bit attractive, and I know he is in love with me because he tells me so, but I do not have romantic feelings towards him. Sometimes I get the urge to let things go further (physically) but in the long run, I never let it get that far. I believe, if something is mentally stopping you from going further with him, then you should listen to your gut feeling. It might also make things complicated after you initially sleep together. He'll be calling you all the time, crying about his love for you and whatnot, and you will have to tell him (once again) that you don't have feelings for him. Trust me, this is what happened when I slipped up and accidentally kissed my guy friend....but either/or, GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-01 10:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be man-hungry. Take time to figure what ou want in a man, and if your friend fits the bill, then go for it. Sex shouldn't be what seals the deal, just a progression of natural events.
You can also just take the plunge. I find that being with girls that are already our friends make either the best couples or the most tragic ones, never in between.
2006-11-01 10:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't just have sex with your best friend first. Your best friend is looking out for you, he wants to be with you but you are not ready or don't want to go there with him. If you decide to do that, be bf-gf first and then work your way up to sex. Just because you are best friends doesn't mean you know everything about them. They can be very different when in a relationship. Just take your time to figure everything out. Good luck.
2006-11-01 10:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by fremme_venette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if he is your best friend, why would u even entertain the though of having sex with him ? Having sex should not be a casual thing, this is something you should not do just for the sake of doing it. U stated u need a guy, then wait for the right one. Having sex with you BEST fried may just end your friendship.
2006-11-01 10:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, be careful with this one. you say this guy is your best friend and you'd very likely regret if you jeapordized that friendship by making a premature relationship move with him; if you feel uncertain about it now, chance are that you will only continue to feel uncertain after; i don't think it's going to get better in that respect. don't do it just because he loves you and you need a man. you'll just end up hurting both of you. only do it if you feel absolutely sure. otherwise, keep your friendship, and hang in there till the right guy comes along.
2006-11-01 10:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by KJC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should do it. You sound like you don't know what you want to do, and that may play with this guy's head. Wait till you figure that out before you take any chance. If your not feeling it seriously, it's not gonna work. You might just remain friends with him while he falls in love with you, thats not fair. Or worse, you might ruin your friendship all together. Remember what's at risk here. Listen to you heart, and stick to your guns.
2006-11-01 10:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by CheezyYumYums 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can u be lovers if you cant be friends first, if you're the best friends, being lovers is even better cause you're already know the other ones needs and desires.
2006-11-01 10:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by us2_4playtime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sacrifice your best friend because you are horny. There are plenty of guys out there who would be willing to break you off a little "somethin' somethin'". Don't toy with your best friends' emotions like that though.
2006-11-01 10:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by gateach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to follow you intuition and it is telling to take it slow. Its ok to have feelings for him, don't go too fast or you might scare him off and make him feel uncomfortable. Talk to him and see if he has these same feelings towards you and if it is mutual then GO FOR IT!!!!
2006-11-01 10:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by turnertot1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Wierd, But If He Accepts Your "Invatation" Then GO AHEAD!
2006-11-01 10:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by נessιcα. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋