I have a 3 year old son, Jason who is not at all intersted in potty training. I have tried everything short of giving treats ( don't believe in rewards like candy or toys) to get him intersted in the potty. He just dosen't care. I am teaching him to sit for both. I don't believe that a man has to stand to pee. And I will not allow my husband or sons to pee standing up in our house. To me standing up is gross and messy. Daddy has tried to teach him and he just gave him a "WHATEVER" look and walked away. I don't think he would understand what a "reward" is. I give him kisses and hugs all the time. But, the child has never had candy in his life.
At this point, I am not going to be pushing it. We have another son due in late January and I don't think it is worth it.
Are their other moms out there that have little boys that are the same way. He has been to the DR. and he is just fine. He just doesn't care.
2006-11-01 10:20:13 · 14 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My son is not in daycare and has never seen another child go potty before. He is hardly around other children. And has never been away from us. So, he depends on Daddy & I to train him.
2006-11-01 10:28:30 · update #1
He dosen't tell me when he is wet or dirty or if he needs to go at all. He really just dosen't care.
2006-11-01 14:30:17 · update #2
It sounds like your son isn't ready to be trained. If he isn't telling you he is wet or dirty then he isn't ready. To prepare him for training, get him a potty book to read to him. Also, they have an Elmo doll that you can put on the pretend potty when he has to go. He might like that. I didn't use food or candy as a reward. I used air freshener. My son loves to spray air freshener and it was a big deal for him to spray it after he went to the bathroom.
How does your husband feel about you "not allowing" him to pee standing up? It sounds weird to me.
2006-11-02 02:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well my son has special needs and so I just assumed he would be in diapers for a long time and didn't worry about it..Interestingly enough as soon as I stopped worrying about it, he gained interest on his own. Granted, he was 4 1/2 by the time he was potty trained, but he basically trained himself in a week. My daughter on the other hand fought and fought, because I figured since she wasn't like my son she didn't need special consideration and I tried to force her. It was a nightmare, and I still ended up waiting until she was almost 4, and there was a lot of messes and anger inbetween. Maybe you don't think you should have to wait, and believe me I don't blame you, but we have to remember that even though kids are smaller than us, and don't have the same mature thought processes we have; they are still people with their own ideas about how they want things done. Of course that doesn't mean they should always get their way, or that they get the rule of the house, but sometimes just remembering that their own thoughts might be pushing them to fight you can greatly help the way you handle them. (I've learned this the hard way, trust me)
The only thing we can do is help them become more mature, and that includes using the potty. It's funny how much they don't care about the things we care about...The less emphasis you put on the potty the more likely your son will find his own interest, with the pressure factor removed.
2006-11-01 10:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son will be 2 in December. Has absolutely NO interest in it either. BUT, he will tell me when he is going or has already gone. He doesn't ALWAYS tell me, but when he does, I will put him right on the potty chair. ( I have a portable one laying around so I can do "on the spot" training. Once they get used to the portable its fairly easy to make the transition to the "big" potty. If he has already done a poop in the diaper for instance, I stand him up in front of the potty facing away so that he can sit. I take his pants down VERY carefully remove the diaper so there are no messes...and if its a solid poop (the better off you are) I will roll it into the potty, sit him down immediately without giving him the chance to look into the potty...then I make a BIG deal that HIS poop is in the potty like a BIG BOY.Praise, Praise and MORE praise. I haven't done the treat thing yet...I'll only bring it in if necessary. My daughter did great on that. (Its not a horrible thing to reward your kids.) The only other comment I might have is that he may be turned off to potty training because of something you may have done? You said you don't "allow" your husband or son to stand up peeing....that sounds very controlling, and a bit ridiculous that a grown man isn't allowed to pee the way he feels like...so maybe your 3 yr old is picking up these negative feelings about having to use the toilet? I mean do you actually "inforce" the no standing rule? The way you worded it sounds very rigid...you just may have turned him off. Potty training is very delicate. If they feel any ounce of pressure or rigidness about how they need to do it...they will not do it.
2006-11-01 10:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i have a 3 year old daughter who learned to potty train when she was 2 i worked hard to make her potty train. she didn't have a care for it so i made a goal for my self and said that by the time she was 3 she would be potty trained. i recommend to set a goal for your self and then do everything possible to accomplish it. i would put her on the seat and tell her that she had to potty or else she wouldn't get something she really wanted. most of the time it was clothing. find something your son like to do and tell him that if he doesn't do this he wont get that. you fill in the blanks. also don't put a dipper on because then they expect to have the dipper on so they wont tell you when they have to go. if they make a mess make the boy help you clean it up he would be grossed out and the wouldn't want to do it again so he will start to go in the bathroom.good luck i hope i helped.
2006-11-01 10:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by cosita 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All kids need to be trained in their own time. My oldest was three and 1/2. The more they are around other children who are potty trained the more likely they'll want to be too. It's one of the feew times that peer pressure can be a positive thing. Good luck.
2006-11-01 10:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by puzzleraspie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will do it on his own time. my aunt has a 3 yr old and he just recently (last 2 weeks) started using the potty. the funny thing is she was comparing him to other kids, not a good thing to do, and was trying to get him potty trained and he refused (didnt have a bowel movement for 1 week) cause she was pushing him to. she stopped trying after being told several times, he would do it in his own time, when he is ready. she gave up and about 2 weeks later he went to the bathroom and came out and said hey mommy i pottied!!!! he was so proud of himself and hes been doing it since so dont worry he will, when he is ready!!! good luck!!!
2006-11-01 10:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by tangela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children.In mine place where I live right now,the kids need to be clean by the age of 3,what wise they can not go to the kindergarten.Take a walk with him,and show the places where he can go and play, if he could be clean.Or just take the diapers of off him and let him, see and feel it how messy,and smelly,he will be.Besides YOU should push him,because in January you are going to have much more work,and a little help from every side can only be good for you...and don't forget,you are the mom and boss, not yours little one.
2006-11-01 10:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by maria s 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No offense however you ought to permit her carry her little one the best way she desires and now not fear approximately it. If the child is 6 and nonetheless in diapers its none of our trade. Not to mention that I wish a 6 year historic in diapers complete-time however its her resolution how to elevate her little one. For a few of these feedback, dressed in diapers as a little one does now not impact a little one's growth. I used to be a mattress wetter beyond the age of 15 and used to be in a disposable diaper each and every night time till I used to be dry. It had no impact on me what so ever. Yea it sounds unhealthy however its relatively now not and I can say that seeing that I used to be the only diapered. The child might be simply quality.
2016-09-01 05:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by kushiner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was just over 3 1/2 before I could even get him to even care. Then a few weeks later he just did it on his own. I just let him decide when it was time instead of forcing the issue.
2006-11-01 10:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that he doesn't care, it's because he isn't READY to be potty trained. The problem isn't with the child it is with the child's parents.
2006-11-03 21:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋