This Chick Had Her Dress Inside Out........?

Question

I worked for years as a bouncer, one nite this chick came in and as I checked her ID I noticed that she was wearing her dress inside out tags sticking rite out the side about waist high, on of those one piece sweater type skirts. I thought for a second( should I tell her or not?) I decided not to tell her. As she walked past the other bouncer, he says to me: " Hay that chick has her dress inside out you gotta tell her" Told him I wasn't saying anything. So he went and told her.......HOLY.......She got really pissed and left.

I guess my question is: Was I right for not saying anything? or Was he right for telling her? I was trying to save her some embarrassment.

What would you have done?

Answer 1

You could have gone with something like "your tag is sticking out". That way, if she truly had no idea that it was inside out, she would have noticed at that point without the public embarassment of being told that she was wearing her clothing inside out. It is much less embarassing to be told that your tag is sticking out, most bystanders won't even bother to look. However, if someone mentions that you are wearing something inside out, then ususally you get some interest from the bystanders.

Answer 2

Lucky for you, you are a bouncer, not the fashion police. Even though she may or may not have done that on purpose you don't have to subject yourself to her embarassment which for her led to anger. If the other bouncer wants to point out embarassing things to people as they walk through the door, thats his own conquest in life.

Answer 3

I would've said something -- politely and discreetly -- and you maybe should've, though it's no big deal that you didn't.

I made it several blocks in a plain skirt a few months ago before noticing it was inside out. Nobody said anything, but I suppose it wasn't too noticeable -- it must've just looked ratty.

FWIW, she embarrassed herself with the reaction, not the peculiar fashion...

Answer 4

I would say something if I knew the person, but probably would be embarrassed to tell a stranger; not knowing if she intended to wear it that way. Especially when people are out clubbing, who knows if it may be some kind of a trend or something intentional??

Answer 5

I would of told her , i wouldn't of felt bad
i wouldn't wanna be walking around with my dress inside out. I would of started laughing and walked right in the bathroom and changed it back. She really didn't have to leave. I guess she felt really embarrassed

Answer 6

What's worse: being embarrassed by you, going to the bathroom and changing it and then avoiding the embarrassment from everyone at the club or not telling her, letting her be embarrassed from everyone and avoiding being embarrassed by you? You shoulda told her. There are ways to do that so she probably would not have been embarrassed at all.

Answer 7

My guess is she was so embarrassed that is why she got angry and left...Humilation usually manifests itself with anger...Telling her was the right thing to do. If she didn't appreciate it at the time, she probably did later, and if not..well then she's not worth worrying over then.

Answer 8

I don't think she should have gotten so pissed. She should be grateful that someone was telling her before anyone else could notice and say something stupid about it. I would have told her myself, because I wouldn't figure on her getting so angry.

Answer 9

If it were me, I would like to be told quietly, so I could go fix it and avoid further embarrassment!

Answer 10

She could have been an idiot that thought it was an original "fashion statement".