the sunday before last my bf was meant 2 come over 2 see me after work, i finished at 9pm, so i didnt really expect him 2 come over, i geta message at bout 2am saying that he'd fallen asleep, & was so sorry & please dont break up with him,
the other night we went out w a few friends & he'd had a few drinks & he turns around & says that he came in2 town 2 pick up his friends who were drinking,
why didnt he just say that? it'd be fine, or not tell me at all?
2006-11-01 10:14:23 · 20 answers · asked by jd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him why he wasn't honest.
Chances are, he was scared that you'd get all possesive and jealous, as a lot of women do!
2006-11-01 10:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You think like me but you know what men sometimes do stupid stuff that would be fine with us if they would only say the truth, now I'm inclined to think the picking up his friends story is also a lie, I reckon he went out with his mates and got tanked then felt guilty as he was hitting his pillow and decided to make up the "I fell asleep" tall story! Be confident and ask him out straight in a calm voice "Do you want to be in a relationship or do you need to be a single lad out on the rip", he will be astonished at this, he obviously has mates who maybe slag him over having a "ball and chain" so you be the better of the situation and see what he says, make it clear (while still smiling) that if he says he is meeting you he needs to keep his appointments and not make up silly childish stories adn then tell the truth cos that just leeds you to wonder what else is he lying about. Dont worry he probably was'nt up to anything but at least you will show him you have self respect and expect some from him. :-)
2006-11-01 10:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thought you'd be upset for standing you up. Maybe he thought that falling asleep is a much easier excuse to swallow then being a good friend. It's been my experience that when a person drinks enough, they don't lie, especially about big stuff. I didn't think about this until now, but I should tell all these people worried about their boy/girlfriends cheating to get them drunk then ask them if they're cheating lol. Anwyay, back to your question. If someone has told a lie, then they drink, they tend to set the record straight. Hope this helps.
2006-11-01 10:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy has a drinking problem... seriously! He was drunk when he left you the message at 2 am or he wouldn't have gone to that "please don't break up with me" place. And then he has to get drunk again to tell you the truth about where he actually was? Is that the kind of relationship you want? I'd call it a red flag - take it as a warning of lies and ommissions to come.
2006-11-01 10:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that he can and should be honest about anything in the relationship. You don't want him to get in the habit of lying. If he will lie about something as minute as that, imagine if it was something major? So open the line of communication so that he will fell comfortable telling the truth in any situation.
2006-11-01 10:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by gateach 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, neither story is true... but now you know he has lied at least once, how do you know when to believe him? Maybe he just lost track of what he previously said, maybe he lies a lot, maybe there's another woman, maybe there's another man...
The possibilities are staggering - bottom line is, do you trust him, or are all the signs lit up saying, get out now!!!...?
2006-11-01 10:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i be wondering why he wasnt honest in the first place!....more like he went out with them and convieniently forgot about coming round to see you....2am would have been the time he got home to text you!, and not the time he woke up from his sleep to realise he was supposed to call and see you!...end of the day do you trust him?......i agree also with viva_bamm....alcohol brings out the truth in people!
2006-11-01 10:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems like an idiot. "OH NO!! PLEASE DONT BREAK UP WITH ME" if he is sooooooo concerned that you will break up with him he KNOWS he's being a dumba** and is not worthy of your love. Find a guy who isnt afriad of you. get rid of this wimp.
But I'm not saying go for a bada**. This guy is just weird why would he lie to you about something like that? He just proabbly thought you would be offened and thats why he freaked out and was like "DONT BREAK UP WITH ME" he knew he should have told you thats why hes so stupid.
2006-11-01 10:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is acting fake.......if he doesn't really got a genuine reason to say or hide things......i would consider him playing. Just try to ignore him for a few days but don't be fake, coz u might be possessive.....so give him a break, and his true colours will be right in front of you.
2006-11-01 10:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by watermelon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people think telling a lie is better than telling the truth. If he lies about something that simple, what else has he lied about?
2006-11-01 10:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he's probably afraid of your reaction. You may have gotten angry or demanded he come to see you or done the crying thing on him. Or, he's just an immature little liar who doesn't respect you enough to be honest. You know him.
2006-11-01 10:17:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋