Do women want big diamonds or some thing simple and small?

Question

I just got engaged on Halloween Morning, He surprised me in the morning when we where getting ready to go to work, it was our one year anniversary and I had no clue that he got me the ring, any way later that day at work a couple of my co-workers asked me if that was the ring, I was a little puzzled I said yes why? They answered with O Didn't you want a bigger diamond? My Ring is really simple and the diamond is really small that's all he could afford for me and that's fine with me I love him so much, and he really didn't have to bye me a ring, but my question is do women want big diamonds or some thing simple and small when they get engaged?

P.S. The fact that he remembered our day was plenty for me just getting engaged is an extra wink wink lol have a great day ppl and thanks for your time peace

OK I'm not trying to show off at work or any other place I'm really proud of him and like I said I'm really simple and the ring is wonderful Just wanted to know who out there rather have a big diamond on there finger.

Answer 1

First of all, Congratulations!

I would much rather have what you have- a small diamond with real meaning behind it. Those women at work were very rude, and if it were me, I probably would've told them so.

They're probably the type of people who have to have everyone else make a fuss over them, and you are obviously proud of who you are and who you are with.

My fiance hasn't bought my ring yet, because of financial constraints (we're trying to redo our whole apartment, from the flooring up, and we have an 8 1/2 month old son!), but I've been attempting to not-so-subtly drop hints, like I want silver, not gold, and I'd rather have an emerald than a diamond.

But I'd much rather have something smaller and meaningful than something big and flashy, just to get attention.

Answer 2

Don't worry about what people say. All that matters is that he loved you enough to buy you this ring and plus if wanted you can also up grade for you one year wedding anniversary. But I am like you I do not want anything to bling bling. I also like small and simple. Plus to big gets in the way at work. I work in the medical field and you take a chance hurting a patient when the ring is to big. I am glad that you are happy with what you got and not one of those women that only worry about the size of the diamond and how much money was spent. Congrats on your engagement and Good luck!!!

Answer 3

No the size of the diamond is not important to a woman who just loves her man. A woman who NEEDS a huge ring has the wrong priorities.

And SHAME on people who point out that the ring is too small. I can't believe anyone would have the nerve to make a comment on the size.

You man sounds wonderful. Your ring sounds wonderful.

Think about a good, non threatening come-back to say to people who make a comment on the size. Then say it kindly and in a way that won't make them defensive, but in a way to let them know that what they said was insulting and inapproiate.

Like " ....ouch, I didn't realize the size of my ring was open for public discussion. I love the ring, the love of my man is what counts. I would chose this ring over any other ring in this world as long as it is connected to the man I love"

Then smile and walk away. Hopefully the person gets that they crossed a boundry. And if they talk back to you simply say."I didn't realize the size of my diamond was such a big deal?"

What you say is up to you. Just don't let people lessen your joy because they are rude and obnoxious. They are not worth the energy.
don't let anyone rain on your joy.

Answer 4

Good grief, whomever asked you about the bigger diamond sounds shallow at best, stupid at worst. Some women probably DO want bigger diamonds and all this stuff - but I think you have the right idea: it is the thought and the symbolic meaning that count more than anything else. I think your fiancé did a wonderful thing, and made a wise choice. Think about it: if you guys are getting married, why would you want him to spend "your" (meaning yours AND his) money on huge diamonds? Wouldn't it be more fitting to be saving up for having a family? Unless he was rolling in dough, I would consider it very wasteful if my significant other showed up with a huge ring.

(I picked out my engagement ring myself, and it wasn't even a diamond - it is blue topaz, my favorite stone.)

Answer 5

I think it is much wiser to spend the money on a home than to buy a big diamond.

I do like big diamonds, but when we were first married, a big diamond was out of the question. Then later after we were established, we upgraded our rings for a special anniversary.

Ignore those rude comments. You have the right idea!

Answer 6

I have been married 7 years - and am getting my ring for Christmas this year. We had a baby on the way, and a limited budget, so he bought me a simple gold band for the ceremony. I could not have been happier. He is getting me a real diamond for Christmas because he has always wanted to - but I would be happy with my gold band forever. It is the meaning - not the size of the rock that matters.

Of course, if you had a guy with lots of money, and he just didn't want to spend it on you, that would be another story.

Answer 7

It's not about the size of the diamond, it's about the meaning behind it.

Put it this way...

My engagement ring isn't even my engagement ring. We couldn't afford a ring. So, since my mother died in 2003 of lung cancer, my stepdad gave me my mothers ring instead.

So I wear her ring. It's the most precious thing I own and it would hurt terribly if anything ever happened to it.

Because the meaning behind the ring means sooooo much more than the size of the diamond. Not only is it my mothers ring but it's the ring I'm wearing for my own engagement to the love of my life.

It means so much to me. My husband said he feels guilty because he didn't get me a ring. But I wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 8

CONGRATS!!! You're off on a wonderful journey!
I wanted simple and small. I saw my sisters with big rocks and all the hassle they had with insurance, or not wearing their rings because they were scared. Phooey! I wanted rings I could wear every day, and proudly!
What I wanted was the man, I got the man and he got me. The day he proposed, he fashioned a ring out of that silver cigarette paper, and that's what I had for a while!!! (I still have it, over 17 years later)
I feel sorry for women who just go after the big diamond, as if that were the important thing. They are missing out on a lot....
Wish you lots of luck and love....

Answer 9

Personally I'd rather have a colored stone instead, which you can get big enough to actually see it and it is still much cheaper than the smallest diamond so you don't have to live on beans and bread for months.

But if I had to have a clear stone, I would want a CZ. I have been to my fair share of jewelry shows growing up and I have yet to be impressed by any diamonds and I don't ever want one. I always found the CZs to be more spectacular and sparkly, but that's just me.

Answer 10

I wanted something small and simple, so I thought. Then he got me a gorgeous ring that was not small and he designed it himself so it was unique, and I love it! I'll be honest, I loved having bragging rights showing it off to my friends, family, and coworkers. But if it would have been plain and simple like I thought it was going to be I would have been just as happy, it's the commitment that counts, not the carat. :)

So you can tell those people to shut the h*ll up, it's none of thier concern whether you wanted a bigger one or not, and it was really rude for them to say that!

Congratulations on the engagement!!