Im a teen w/ low self esteem amd ill admit it but how do i get a guy to like me w/ out being odvious and iv tryed bein my self!!! plz help
2006-11-01 10:00:54 · 24 answers · asked by abitachick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he knows i like him but i dont know if he likes me and we dont talk b/c i heard he said i was a fat ugly whore!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-01 10:12:04 · update #1
Hey Angel,
You have gotten some good advice regarding your self esteem.
If you don't like what you look like change. Exercise, eat less.
Probably more importantly .... eat right.
You've heard about women who seem to crave abuse? They become battered wives ...after a relationship ends they find another jerk just as bad or worse than the first.
Why would you be even remotely attracted to a guy who called you a fat ugly whore? It sounds like you're grooming yourself to be a battered wife.
This piece of work shouldn't be a consideration. A girl has to have her standards. If you ever let him get close to you he's going find out as soon as he can if the "whore" thing is true and most likely spared more rumors no matter what.
I have a very good feeling about you ... I think you're going start doing all the right things and turn into a dreamboat.
Godspeed!
2006-11-05 06:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to "try" to get him to like you, then he is not the right guy for you. This is associated with your self esteem issues, you are convinced that you are not likeable unless you try. Just be yourself, if he isn't interested, then he isn't the right guy for you. Trust me, when you are a teen you aren't that likely to come across your one true love that lasts a lifetime because everyone is putting on an act, no one can truly love, or be loved by a facade. Just be yourself, and the rest will fall into place.
2006-11-01 10:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl with low self esteem usually goes for whatever guy will pay her attention, rather than holding out for a quality guy. You can raise your self-esteem and meet guys by joining clubs, taking up a new sport like martial arts, getting some new hobbies, volunteering, or helping out with school projects and community events. When you like yourself and are full of energy and fun, you'll attract lots of guys.
2006-11-01 10:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to build up your self esteem, you need to realize that you are a powerful young lady who can have anyone she wants. If you really like the guy then just go up to him with confidence and ask him out and if he rejects you don't worry about it there are a lot of guys out there who are single. Good Luck.
2006-11-01 10:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by princessaranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably want more instant results... but practice being nice to other people you may not be as hung up upon as this guy. Just acquiring or improving social skills might give you confidence.
Also, just getting to know ohthers better you might even find someone else that you do get along with who is equal or better than this current fixation that is causing you problems..
Pray this stage of life gets easier for you.... most likely IT WILL.
2006-11-01 10:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Omphale's folly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whatever you do, continue to be yourself!
Dont pretend to be someone your not...
It always turns out wrong and you end up hurting yourself.
Dont listen to others that tell you to wear a sexy top, or act slutty.
It definitely won't help you win the heart of the one you like.
Just be yourself, and maybe start flirting.
He can't just "notice" you.
Try making small talk.
Ask him if you can borrow a pencil, or to help you with your homework or something.
Just, don't attack him, ok?
Boys hate that kind of stuff.
If you have to get to the point where you are wearing slutty clothing to get him to notice you, then he is not the one for you.
I hope everything goes well for you!
2006-11-01 10:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It differs from person to person. I personally get guys by communicating with them a lot. It usually starts with texts messaging, then if I feel comfortable with him, I call. When we're together I usually make slight hints, but nothing obvious. Like being "mean" and sarcastic. I would really recommend the communication thing though... because it's easy to get to know one when you talk. But don't come off too out there... then he'll know you're trying to impress him.
2006-11-01 10:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea to seek out some professional help with your low self esteem because all of our answers probably won't help you. I wish you happiness in your search for a better life...
2006-11-01 10:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and tell him how u feel. I know sometimes its one of those things that are easier said than done. That is the best way to let someone know is to be up front. It will be a good self esteem booster. Good luck
2006-11-01 10:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by tckk1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of all of your good qualities and look at them when you wake up and go to sleep. That should help with you self esteem. Stand up straight, smile, and talk to more people/when talking to people look them in their eyes and ask questions. If you look people in the eye you seem more sincere and people will think that you are interested if you ask questions. Good luck.
2006-11-01 10:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by miss m. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋