my mum is horrible to me. its like she doesn't love me or anything. its so annoying! if i have a problem and i come to her she shouts at me. if i am not in a good mood she shouts at me saying the least i could do is be in a good mood but she is in bad form every day!!! i just feel so alone because we used to be so close. last year she recovered from cancer unless thats it and if thats it am i a horrible person?
2006-11-01 09:54:41 · 4 answers · asked by ciara l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not a horrible person. It sounds like your mom is suffering from depression or anxiety or something. please tell a counselor or teacher at school, or a family member you trust. YOur mom needs help, and you deserve to live in a home where you are NOT being verbally assaulted.
2006-11-01 09:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No question that your mom is deffinately going through something very "personal" within herself! And perhaps just the fact that she sees you as being much too young of a person to share & discuss her personal-problem with , might be what aggitates her even more ? Nevertheless, no child deserves to be treated or mis-treated as what you claim your situation is.
Yes, your mom does obviously need some help . But, before advising you to find her some professional -attention or reporting her behavior to sources outside of the family ; I would first suggest that if there is another adult-relative that you could maybe turn to and openly share your situation with regarding your mom... then ,hopeful you could also have that relative give it a try at having a talk with your mom. A relative that you think your mom could feel comfortable talking with ? They could probaly point -out to your mom how that her behavior is really taking a terrible toll upon her relationship with her child( you).
Try that method first, as opposed to bringing some type agency into the matter .Because by doing that you are taking the risk of subjecting your mom to a lot of outside -involvement (i.e. Family-court, Child-abuse-investigators , ect etc) that could also possibly do you & mom's relationship more harm than help. Do make that your last resort .
And no! You are not a horrible person !
Wishing you all the luck !
2006-11-01 18:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel. I was in the exact same position with my mom a few months back and she too had recovered from breast cancer. the only thing you can do is wait and wait and she will release what she is doing. i don't think it is depression cos my mom wasn't depressed but her blood pressure was high and she took tablets and she got a bit better.(no wonder it was high after all the unnessecary roaring!) what i used to do when she was roaring was just look at her for a few seconds and walk out of the room. i know it sounds stupid but believe me it worked! she realised how stupid she was being. now she is grand again. p.s. like your name!! wierd huh!
2006-11-01 18:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by rubydogsgreen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting down with her and tell her how you feel.Sometimes we mothers hold our fears inside but let it out on the ones who are there for us.As a mom myself,I'd love to hear my daughter say"Mom I'm here for you,no matter what it is you are going through.you were always there caring emotionally for me,now let me emotionally care for you". Then add a "I love you".Can't Hurt.Might even be a great beginning to a special relationship between you two. Hugs...
2006-11-01 18:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋