He has been jailed for an offense against his own children. I often wonder if he abused me as a baby because he is old enough to be my father.
He and his latest wife and daughter are coming to town for a visit. Everyone will meet at my house to see my other brother who is visiting too. I really am afraid I will not be very pleasant to him. I don't know if this new wife knows he is a pedophile. It is like he keeps getting married to these women and having babies. Just to have little victims.
2006-11-01 09:48:55 · 12 answers · asked by Jacks036 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Brother or no brother, he would not be in my house. I don't want to give any advice on how to handle his wife, who may or may not know that her husband is a pedophile. Maybe you should call the authorities and tell them your brother is a known pedophile and that he is living in a household with young children. Do it anonymously if necessary.
2006-11-01 13:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by juicie813 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have this person in your house if you have any bad feelings about him whatsoever? I would not let him near my family or children if you have children. I think this is something his new wife should know also. He probably did abuse you and you have blocked it out or were too young to remember. I don't think this is something he is going to stop doing. He is a sick person and his own daughter is probably in jeopardy if he is not already abusing her. Someone probably needs to have child protective services in your area to talk with his daughter about this. She may be a victim and afraid to say anything to anyone because he might have threatened her. If she is not old enough to tell anyone, he still needs to be watched or not around any children. I could not have this person in my home and if I thought there was a chance he had abused me, I certainly would not have him there!!! Good luck to you and your family.
2006-11-01 10:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Libragal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all - you have every right to be uncomfortable. Second of all - why is he even allowed anywhere near your house and most especially - your daughter? An experience like that, at such a young age, is tramatic enough - don't add to it by making her spend time with the man how tried to do that to her!!
If I were you, I would not worry about being unpleasant - I would in no uncertain terms, let him know he is not welcome anywhere near you or your daughter. No matter what, even if he was a changed man, your daughter should not have to see him - it will just bring up memories that a child should never have.
2006-11-01 09:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to tell this woman. Wouldn't you want to know if your husband was a pedophile?
Also - Don't let him near your kids. Before he gets there, make sure you sit them down and explain the situation. Tell them that he is dangerous and they are not to leave your sight.
As far as wondering if he hurt you in the past, There's no real way to know. As a rape victim myself, the only advice I have for you is to simply focus on what is front of you, and the rest will fall into place.
Take it easy, and I hope this helps.
2006-11-01 10:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by baabaababy77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you allowing everyone to come to your house? You have the right to say no and to change that right away. They may be your family, but you do not owe it to them to put yourself in situations that any of them may do harm to your physical or mental well being. That is not even to speak of your children, I don't care how old they are now. That is not good. Your home and your children's home is your "safe haven". You've got to be the protector of yourself and your own family. Keep your children away from him. Make some phone calls, "change of plans, it's not going to work for me to have everyone over here. How about we all meet at "favorite restaurant" instead." Put your foot down and be firm.
Then you ask a good trusted friend of yours to keep your children for the evening. Maybe even overnight if needed.
You need to be able to excuse yourself from the family situation pronto if things begin to get uncomfortable for you, or if you just feel like you want to. If everyone is at your house, you can't do that, you are basically "hostage". By inviting him into your home, your children's place of security and living is made vulnerable, that is very unfair and uncomfortable for them, even if they haven't been told or if they are older. They can sense things. This type of thing does not belong in children's lives. You are the only one who can protect them. When there is an obvious threat, why wouldn't you keep them away from it? You have to, at all costs.
2006-11-01 10:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ironic that as much as a gov like Brewer complains about the federal government, she is nevertheless unwilling to listen to the views of the local governments in her state. This new law takes the option away from them regarding the disposition of the guns and will most likely discourage gun buy back programs, which is doubt why the NRA supported the law.
2016-05-23 05:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if at the party he does show up..gather the whole family around and together...set down the rules/inform the "New" wife of the situation, then ask him to leave and never return or else ther'll be PIG on the table besides the turkey!
2006-11-01 10:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by dawngrundmansphotography 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OMG. I don't even know what to say. Why are you even having him to your home?
2006-11-01 10:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hun i dont know what u should do thats freaky tho
2006-11-01 09:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to know and you know it. Tell her and don't let him anywhere near you or your kids!!!!
You KNOW your kids are more important than he is PLEASE don't let him near them!
n3
2006-11-01 09:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by N3WJL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋