I met an awesome guy online. His picture is so perfect, as is everything about him. The problem is that he lives far away, so how do I know if he is misrepresenting himself? I asked him to buy a webcam or go to an internet cafe, but he says he is just lazy or doesn't like to leave the house. I just want to know that he is being real. When I question him about my suspicions, it always ends up in an argument. Am I wrong to question him or not to trust him?
2006-11-01 09:48:01 · 11 answers · asked by bestexasgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOOOOOOO!!!
2006-11-01 09:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cautious is a good thing, never doubt yourself in being cautious. I personally have met some great friends online, who i did grow to trust in time, male and female. But trust is not something you can give to others easily and nor can it be given without knowing the real person behind the computer screen. There is no harm in having idle chat and forming friendships, but trust, personal information etc should not be given as technically, you are still strangers - you cannot always believe the words typed, you do not know who is sitting there typing them. If you have doubts, your gut instinct is usually good to go by, unless of course you are a severely paranoid person in all aspects of life, then your gut instinct is not always the best. If you are concerned, don't put your trust in him, don't give details of yourself, continue to used your side email address and see how it goes over time, See if facts, stories, details change, if he answers questions differently, does anything to cause alarm, if he pressures to see you or for details etc, then you may have cause to worry and maybe seek further help. But if he is happy to just be online friends for awhile, has the same story/answers etc, doesn't ask for info/details then he may be ok. The internet is not all bad, yes there are some seriously deranged, crazy and dangerous people, but amongst that, there are decent, nice and kind people. You just have to put your safety first and don't rush into things. Good Luck.
2016-05-23 05:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you stated you dont know this guy. No one is perfect anything that seems to good to be true usually is.If you feel like he is misrepresenting himself dont continue to chat with this man. You havent met this man only a pic that could be anyone and things dont seem to heading to a relationship so why bother?
2006-11-01 09:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with a guy I met on-line from New York..I was total took by surprise when I investigated him..everything he told me about him was true only think wasn't was he's picture. I'm sure he seen you on webcam already maybe he's really ugly and your to pretty.
2006-11-01 09:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by nfld_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go with your gut feelings. If you feel uneasya bout this person then do not continue to speak to them. If they will not show you themselves via web cam then they are obviously hiding something.
When online always try to use reputable websites.
Remember its better to be safe than sorry
2006-11-02 04:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by aranrlackey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is never trust someone online who u dont know
2006-11-01 09:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoulnt trust no one u meet because u havent met them in person and u dont know if there r juz playing around and juz trying to get something out of thiz but juz be careful wat u tell him
2006-11-01 09:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by *L@ Chic@N@* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO THIS HAS HAPPEND A LOT OF TIME AND ONLY A LITTLE OF THEM ARE NICE THE REST ARE JUST MURDERS.
2006-11-01 09:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by IVERSON'S #1 FAN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because they never are who they say they are!
2006-11-01 09:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i got lucky once but i wouldn't do it twice
2006-11-01 09:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by da unknown poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋