I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and he got me really mad the other day because he stood me up. i love him with all my heart but that day i just broke up with him. i dont know what to do i gave him a chance to get back with me but he just stayed shut in the phone. he calls me but he acts like my friend and as if he didnt care about nothing that is going. what should i do and how can i get him back?
2006-11-01 09:47:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a tough one...i think that it comes down to being brutally honest with him. tell him that you're sorry that you reacted the way that you did. and that if he wants to continue the relationship that you guys had it would be nice and to let you know. tell him that its better that you know upfront what he thinks and wants. tell him that your relationship means a lot and that the ball is basically in his court. (meaning that he decides what happens next)...
i wish u both the best of luck.
2006-11-01 09:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by proudmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like although he didn't stand you up on purpose, this comes out of lack of caring for you. I'm not saying he doesn't love you, he probably does. But I think you breaking up with him was his way out - I think he needs some space. If you were so quick to break up with him, I think maybe you both need some space. He might go with other girls for a while or just stay single, but if he loves you, he will eventually come back and when he does, he'll be more committed to you than ever because he'll value you way more. I know it's hard to see your man acting flirty and single, but sometimes guys need that kind of thing to see what they're missing. Worst case scenario, he doesn't come back and it sounds like he still wants to be friends. It might hurt, but do you really want someone who is not fully devoted to you and stands you up? A good test to see if he still cares is to get him a little jealous. Nothing harmful, just go out with other guys as friends or stop calling him. If he loves you, he'll come right back.
2006-11-01 09:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he is mad at YOU for something HE did, then he's a jerk and you don't deserve him. Second of all, if he acts like what you had was nothing, then wanting him back is just as bad as what he did to you in the first place. But if you really feel that much for him and REALLY want him back, then try telling him how he made you feel, and get to listen well, and then work your way up from there.
2006-11-01 09:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Biohazardous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely the reason why he stood you up is b/c he really doesn't care about you like a gf....just a friend. And now that you broke up with him you just gave him the out he was looking for.
Just stay friends with him but actively search for someone else. You can't force him to love you.....
2006-11-01 09:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not acting like a boyfriend right now, you need to re-evaluate your relationship. If he's treating you like a friend , may be that's what you need to start over as. Let him have some space and see what develops.
2006-11-01 09:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing much you can do except hope time will regain trust and hurt feelings between you both.
If you both care and love each other, you will both try. Playing head games is not trying. Good luck.
2006-11-01 09:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth tell him u hate to be stood up and u were just having an off day if he really loves u he will understand
2006-11-01 09:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by mdmel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jes tell him that u are sorry 4 want u did and hope for the best. tell him tha u made a big mistake and tell him how u feel. it will work trust me
2006-11-01 09:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by teddy14bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone back with you if they really don't want to. But you can try ignoring his calls and hanging out with him for little while, if he really likes you he will start to miss you. good luck =}
2006-11-01 09:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are worth so much more than that. I have been thru 2 bad marriages, and 8 years ago I found Mr. Right......you will too, keep your chin up!
2006-11-01 09:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo Answerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋