After I've seen my psychiatrist for 1/2 year, I started to like him. I've always waited for his call by the phone (sometimes I was his on-call patient, i will get an appt. whenever someone cancelled), I always think of him and talk about him in front of my husband. I sometimes wish that he could be my dad (mine died 7 years ago)...but I am so crazy about him to a point that I dream of him frequently and couldn't get him out of my mind. Should I change my therapist a.s.a.p. as it sounds like an abnormal doctor patient relationship? I bought him gift 2 times and he was very happy to accept those. My husband didn't say a word. He said mine is "like">"love" . Plus I respected and idolized him to be a best dad ever only. How to do it as I stupidly think that I have developed a very tight bonding with him already!! He is around 60+ and I am 38. Please advise, no pranks though.....serious.
2006-11-01 09:40:29 · 6 answers · asked by yannay06 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
What you are experiencing is called "transference". Some may be useful but your's is too much. You and your psychiatrist should talk about this so that it can be worked through and become less of a problem for you.
If your psychiatrist is unwilling or unable to do this, then you need to get another psychiatrist. It is unhealthy for you to keep this present level of "bonding".
Sometimes, transference takes the form of the patient feeling that they have fallen in love with their doctor. On the doctor's part there is something that can happen that is called "counter transference", where the doctor either feels like you are his daughter or that he is in love with you. If that happens, then you must find another psychiatrist unless your present one can get both you and him out of this.
The person who said that some doctors/therapists take sexual advantage of this is correct.
2006-11-01 10:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly change therapist. Client therapist relationship should be just that and you have crossed a big line. It was a mistake of him too to accept you gifts, there he crossed those boundaries. Does he know that you feel that way? Maybe you should tell him that, but you have to be careful cause Ive heard of cases where therapists take advantage of that and have lost their licenses. Good luck with that.
2006-11-01 09:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your therapist about all of this. This so tight bond you have with him is not a very good one when it comes to therapist and patient. A bond is a must with your therapist but this is more than is healthy for you. I'd say he already knows how you feel and should have already suggested you finding another therapist. Good luck.
2006-11-01 09:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very extraordinary on some point. The area that concerns me the main is the form you're saying he's reacting on your infants. became he an in easy terms new child? How became he raised? It sounds like he has some unresolved undertaking and he's using the infants to convey his frustration. consistent with hazard he feels inadequate approximately his parenting skills, or ability to furnish for the family members, and does no longer be responsive to the thank you to deal, so he's merely appearing annoyed and closing down emotionally to atone for his fears. i think of you adult adult males ought to look for suggestion. consistent with hazard a minister or a counselor. in case you are able to not pay for a expert, touch your branch of human centers and spot in the event that they furnish any loose centers. additionally examine and spot in case you have a medical institution on your area this is a coaching medical institution. you're in a position to get loose counseling centers nevertheless them or a minimum of at a discounted fee. handle it now, until now it leads to different themes. your infants ought to be in a healthful environment. ought to he additionally be experiencing medical melancholy? in easy terms a theory. sturdy success!
2016-12-09 00:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not abnormal, he has been a strong positive influence in your life, and has been instrumental in developing and maintaining your health.
You need to remind yourself that the relationship you have with him is a personal one, and if you find it too difficult to keep that in mind, maybe consider seeing someone else.
2006-11-01 09:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by chris_morganuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to find another therepist....seeing this one that you have become attached to is unhealthy for you and your marriage....break the bond by finding another psychiatrist.......If your therepist was reputable he should have suggested it already if he has noticed this unusual bond forming.....if he hasnt noticed and he asks why you are changing therepist...just tell him the truth....that your relationship with him has become something of a problem and that you need to break away from him and see someone else...maybe he could suggest a female therepist that you could go and see.....
2006-11-01 09:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by kndykisz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋