I have a date on Saturday with somebody i have met through a dating site. We are meeting for a coffee in a busy retail park.
I am new to dating 41, recently divorced. Do i give her flowers or not when we meet.
What do you think she would appreciate?
2006-11-01 09:28:10 · 28 answers · asked by padervan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Flowers are always nice. Just bring her something simple and bright...like a bouquet of daisies and baby's breath. Roses are a bit much for a first time meeting. It implies too much.
She'll appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Relax and have a good time!
2006-11-01 09:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's just coffee, she's most likely not expecting anything but polite conversation and a hot cup o' joe. If you want to get a feel for what she's expecting from you, maybe get one flower. Nothing too romantic like a rose, although a rose is popular, it may seem too much even with the ONE rose. Symbolically, one rose means "You are the only one for me." Maybe give her a tulip or a fun, flirty daisy. A daisy says you're fun to be around, and you're a good catch. A tulip says you're sweet and a good catch. You just don't want to come one too strong unless the conversations you've had are kind of intimate. I'm not talking sex intimate, I'm talking lovey-dovey. Whether she's your age or my age (22), she'll be cautious with you. That's why you're meeting at a very busy public place to begin with. Don't sit too close to her until she feels comfortable with you. You'll be able to tell by the way she talks and how much she talks. Take it slow and easy. She obviously likes you, but she needs to be reassured that you aren't gonna do anything bad to her. Just talk about yourself, and ask her about herself. If there's anything that you want her to know or you want to know about her, this is a good time to get things out in the open. Let the conversation progress to more intimate details, but nothing too intimate. Tell her a sweet secret or something after you'ce both started talking a good bit. I know all you asked is what, if anything, you should bring to give her, but I feel that seeing as how you haven't dated in a while, and you don't seem to ever have done it close to this way, I thought I'd give you a few other tips. Good luck. I hope things go well Saturday.
2006-11-01 09:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced after 20 years of marriage and most of my dates have been those I met on dating sites. I consider myself an expert on this subject :)
Definitely bring her something.. If you were meeting her at her house, I would definitely say a bouqeut of flowers would be in order. But meeting in a public place, it would be too much.. too cumbersome.
The coolest thing I got from a first date meeting in a public place was a very small, like palm of my hand little mini floral arrangement. It was exquisite and not embarasing at all. He got it at a florists... great touch.
Good luck to you.. I know you will be charming!
2006-11-01 09:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart that U R meeting in a busy place! Well, I am 41 also and I would say flowers too. Good luck and I hope it meets your dream date.
2006-11-01 09:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do it the traditional way when you first meet someone, then go for the flowers. It shows that you are a gentlemen and you are interested in her benifits. To be more secure, if you are considering roses go with yellow or a light pink. Traditional red comes on too strong...yellow is usually the best color for people just meeting. Good luck and relax.
2006-11-01 09:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by rox_amillion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, definitely no need for flowers at this stage. There's a lot of pressure on both of you at this time. You're just meeting to see if you like each other in the flesh as it were. I think she would appreciate you just being on time, polite and friendly. Don't be like the guy I met like that, who reached across the table and adjusted my jacket for a better view of my breasts!
2006-11-01 09:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would give her a whole dozen or anything like that, but maybe just one. I think that would be sweet. Some ladies still appreciate the small things these days you know. So yes.....a single flower I think would be good for a blind/first date
2006-11-01 09:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of woman she is. She may see it as sweet or she may see it at an outdated male type thing to do. I personally think it is SO sweet but like I said...it depends on the woman. Quite frankly however if she would get irritated if you did...she's not right. So I guess you can't go wrong with some nice flowers.
2006-11-01 09:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by jesus-lives! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO FLOWER'S , what she will appreciate more than anything else is that you turn up , and be a gentleman , that will go much further, and wait to see how things develop and take it from there . have a lovely time and hope your 're meeting the woman of your dreams . cheers !!!!
2006-11-01 09:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, as i have to give birth to recieve flowers i may think it was a bit full on, what if you dont really fancy her, it may give her false hope! save the flowers for the second date...(please bear in mind that i have not been on a date for almost 24 years!)(no i`m not sad and lonely, i`m still with my childhood sweetheart!)
2006-11-01 10:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋