last night my bf and I went to a party. i got horribly drunk and about 3am me and my boyfriend are talking to some stranger. I have quite blurry memories but all of the sudden I gave the stranger a light kiss on the cheek - right in front of my boyfriend -without being attracted to him. the night ended up in an argument where i felt absolutely aweful as my boyfriend declared that i went off with a guy in front of his eyes. the truth is if my boyfriend did that i'd be gutted ... but it was seriously nothing more than drunken stupidity for me.... my bf now said he forgave me but he was quite snappy in the morning and now he's away for a few days .......... what would you guys think and do if yr gf did that? would you trust her? would you forgive her?
2006-11-01 09:25:46 · 21 answers · asked by petr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr how about u drink alot less next time and keep ur hands to urself
2006-11-01 09:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by sassy! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so he cheated on you. and now he has the balls to tell you about it. check it out. i'm going to give it to you straight up and how it is for just about 89% of males that have cheated. once a cheater always a cheater. if he does it again you won't know about it until you walk in on him. you're 21 and have no kids. dump the kid (i don't care how long you've been with him and how nice of a guy he is) and start over. starting over will probably take some time but it will be well worth it because the next guy is going to appreciate you much more. i hope you take my advice because i'm not kidding around. you can say that i don't know the kid and all this and that ... but in reality i probabaly know him better than you ... he doens't want to die ... he just wants the security blanket that you give him in terms of having a g/f. then at the same time he wants some strange (a new adventure in terms of having sex). dump him ... do not think twice about it don't answer his phone calls and don't listen to his voice mails (delete them before you can here his second plee of forgiveness). what ever you do ... don't crack and then a year later get cheated on again. take it easy
2016-05-23 05:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to judge you, Hannah, as I've never been drunk. I am not surprised your boyfriend was upset - iit might be hard for him not to wonder if the alcohol just let your true feelngs slip out. My man isn't very secure with me yet and I know he'd be devastated if I showed affection to another man like that, even under the influence. You will have to make sure your boyfriend knows you are genuinely sorry and ashamed, and upset to have hurt him, since you love him so much. Hopefully he'll soon feel OK again once he realises it isn't going to happen again.
2006-11-01 09:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... odd question... it would depend whether or not she was all over the guy but since it was a simple light kiss cheek then I can forgive and forget. But I will be watching her alcohol consumption from then on.
Which you should be doing. getting drunk isn't all that great as you have experianced. Talk to him, eye to eye and see how he feels. Make sure he doesn't leave and make sure you get your honest answer because he can say what you want to hear and behave in a different manner.
2006-11-01 09:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dahlias 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not drink yourself into 'stupidity' first of all. Secondly, you need to be respectful to your boyfriend by not giving away any kind of kiss to another man. I would be upset and I would question if I could trust them since who knows what else they're doing while drunk if you're not there. I would give you one more shot and then I would be done. I would watch your step here and consider some serious moderation in your lifestyle.
2006-11-01 09:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drink like that ever again, this should prove you are grown up enough to stay in control more.
If you can't control the drinking, you may end up getting gang banged outside of a club on night. It has happened to other girls.
Wise up!
2006-11-01 09:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend to grow up, and for you, you done nothing wrong, I kiss everyone on the cheek that I meet, that's how I am. When I used to go clubbing and stuff with my boyfriend and all our friends, we were basically all the same, the boys kissed the girls on the cheeks too, sometimes a peck on the lips. Theirs nothing wrong with it, if its a friendly peck.
Not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you are fairly young, and in my opinion you have done nothing wrong.
2006-11-01 09:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are drinking that much at your age cut it down now! Your "bf" sounds like he needs to grow up a bit as well.
2006-11-01 09:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. dont get drunk
2. dont talk to a stranger when u r drunk
3. talk this through with ur bf he'll forgive u... he wouldn't be angry if he doesnt love u!!
Good luck
2006-11-01 09:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a one-time, I would let it slide, but I would chide you severely on your drinking habits and actually limit your consumption for the next few parties
2006-11-01 09:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he'll NEVER let you forget it. you admit that you wouldn't have liked it if he had done the same to you. learn from that mistake but consider moving away from your relationship and take a break from serious involvements for a while.
2006-11-01 09:32:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋