I just found out that my BFF is going out.I'm happy but the boy she is going out with is not that great.I'm afraid that if I say something that she will get mad at me.How do I get them to break up??
2006-11-01 09:15:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't, that's not what friends do. If you think he is that terrible maybe the best course would be for you to tell her that she is in charge of her life and you respect her decision but you would like her to know how you feel about it. Then leave it at that it doesn't have to be confrontational. You mind your business and let her handle hers.
Don't be a Backstabber be a Best Friend! ; )
2006-11-01 09:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's be honest. Isn't jealousy playing a role here? You are afraid the new boyfriend is going to come between you and your friend. That's normal, okay? But don't act on such a negative feeling. Even if you really think the guy isn't great let them be. She'll sooner of later find it out herself. In the mean time learn to accept that there will be boyfriends for both of you in future. If you cherish your friendship, be nice to the boy in your friend's life. Give her some space to go out with him. It doesn't mean she cares less about you. And she'll appreciate it. Otherwise you are going to ruin your friendship.
2006-11-01 09:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in that exact situation except its the other way around! My friends Keep tellin me to break up with my bf. But see I dont wanna. I like him. and they dont really even know him. So let me ask.... do u want to break them up because hes a dork, or weird or not hot or not smart or wutever? cuz if one of those it the reason then u just need to keep quiet. i would love it if my friends at least werent so open about how they hate my guy. I like him, its as simple as that. and i wouldnt break up w/ him just cuz someone tells me i should, even if it wuz my bff.... unless he wuz cheatn or sumtin serious like tht!
2006-11-02 12:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you can't say a word. She will have to find out for herself, unless she ask you your opinion and still you need to be careful there. Life is like that. He'll show his stuff and she'll wise up, hopefully.
2006-11-01 09:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Forever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 things to say, neither should persuede your opinion, however both should be thought about
1. i have been AND seen guys "not that great" in either all or close to all aspects (look, financial status, emotionally, meltally, how they treat women) however when you get close, those imperfections make them perfect. unless you specifically see him cheating or flirting, he may be someone entirely else when you get close to him
2. if she is really your BFF she would be happy you alerted her to something she may be blind to because of her love, as i used to be blinded, and know how easily you forget things
2006-11-01 09:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by scaman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though your friends choice of b/f is a bad one, you gotta let her see it on her own. i know you're just looking out for her and her heart, but you dont' want to risk your friendship over a guy. i've dated losers and my friends always told me so. i got so mad at them because they didn't like my boyfriends. eventually i came to my senses. you gotta remember: its her decision who to date. p.s. maybe subtle hints???
2006-11-01 09:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's not "great" about him? Is he a cheater? I mean, if it's just your opinion, you should stay out of it, otherwise it'll just seem like you're jealous.
2006-11-01 09:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by not2nite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel if she's really your best freind she'll value your opinion...it won't hurt if you introduce her to another guy who she might like that you approve of either it always worked when my freinds got in over their heads.....
2006-11-01 09:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually i know someone in ur exact same situation. but is that boyfriend really that bad?
2006-11-01 09:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by someon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lay oFF let your Friend make her own desision
2006-11-01 09:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Ali D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋