Your at a friends house, haven't seen them for awhile and don't get to see them as often as you'd like too but life takes course, there phone rings, it's a neighbor, they sit and talk for an hour or so just gabbing nothing important. How do you feel about that? What do you do with that time? Do you feel like you've been cast aside for someone that they can talk to anytime?
2006-11-01 09:07:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Now when I call someones house and they have company (cuz I always ask if there busy) unless it's important I tell them I'll call back later. If someone is visiting me and someone calls I tell them that I'll call them back cuz I'm busy.
2006-11-01 09:10:35 · update #1
Yes it happened to me. I had not seen my friend for 20 some years. She had a date that night. The date kirk showed up and took my friend Alice and me to a nice restaurant. After we went to a club. He was drinking heavily and when she went to the ladies room or to talk to some different friends he tried to put the make on me and I was not going for it. Finally I had my gut full and took the pitcher of beer and poured it all over his head then I walked out the door. I got a hotel room. The next morning I called her and said I was coming to get my suitcases. I did and she started questioning me and I said I would tell her later on.... I then went to another friends home and her entertainment was Great!
2006-11-01 09:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Carol H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just a problem with the world we live in now. Something like that has happened to me on more than one occasion. One time the host actually slipped into speaking Spanish so that I wouldn't understand the conversation. At which point I interrupted and said 'I can go and you can call me when you have more time.' Really, if I have to twiddle my thumbs I might as well be able to understand the conversation. ;)
I have a friend like you mentioned, one you don't get to see often. Whenever I visit (and it is always me visiting her, not the other way around) it's painful at times because even with me right there, I'm the back burner. The mail comes and she'll actually start looking through in the middle of our conversation.
That behavior is rude. Especially if you don't see that person often. Sounds the same to me -- it's not like I'm an annoying, clingy friend who is there every weekend. We're talking like once every 6 months type visits, if that.
When it happens I feel like 'why am I even here?' I start thumbing through a magazine or looking at pictures. Maybe if it happens again I'll sit down at their computer, hop online, and start answering Yahoo Answers and when they're done I'll say I'm not finished. ;)
The nice thing to do though could be to pardon yourself and ask if there's another time you should come back and try to leave. If they don't realize at that point that they are being rude, you should feel free to get out of the situation.
2006-11-01 17:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by stimply 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely rude. While I might understand for a short period of time, an extended conversation on the phone while a guests sits cooling their heels is just plain rude. I think I would talk to my friend (after I'd cooled down) and tell them what is bothering me.
2006-11-01 17:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it has and it's extremely rude! When it happens, I wait for a couple of minutes and then I leave. They usually stop their conversation long enough to ask where I'm going. I simply tell them to call me when they're not so preoccupied and leave. If I'm staying with them for a few days, I simply leave the room and say nothing....that's a different situation then.
2006-11-01 17:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them to get in contact with me when they have time then i'd leave. and tell them why i left.
I actually tell people who talk on the phone at my house to leave if they dont put the phone away. its just simply rude and inconsiderate of the others around you to do so.
2006-11-01 17:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by vexed and glorious 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is called rude and inconsiderate and I would simply say > it was good seeing you . But you are too busy for me. I wouldn't sit through the phone talk. I would say what I had to say and leave not to return... I never go back to where I am not welcome.
2006-11-01 17:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep this type of friendship you should have a real conversation about this awkward situation.... But if you feel like your ``
2006-11-01 17:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Taynha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very rude, especially that much time. Your time is important too, and should be respected. Maybe this friend is not a "true blue" , but merely a superficial acquaintance.
2006-11-01 18:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rude. If you have company you should tell the person who called that you will call them back.
2006-11-01 17:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by mei-lin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes it has and its very rude when someone does that to a person.
2006-11-01 17:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋