How do I tell if my guy is cheating on me because I have a feeling he is but I can't really tell.
2006-11-01 09:05:23 · 23 answers · asked by Jennifer N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
steal his cell phone(if he has one) and read his text messages!
2006-11-01 09:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People give off little signals when they are cheating on their boyfriends/girlfriends. One is getting defensive if you ask them certain questions, but getting defensive by itself is NOT a good way to tell. If he looks guilty, leaves the room, or only uses one word for each sentence while he's on the phone, that's another thing to look/listen for. With the one word, watch his body language. If he speaks kind of low and/or kind of turns away from you when he's talking on the phone, that could be a sign. If he talks to his girl(s) online, watch for him exiting or minimizing windows. Guys/girls are smooth for a while, but they always slip up. Eventually, you'll find out if he is cheating. He'll come see you (or come home) with a condom still on. He'll say he was at work and smell like Irish Spring when he hasn't supposedly had the chance to shower. He'll get in the shower as soon as he gets home. My best friend's ex-boyfriend came home and had a condom stuck to his shoe. That one was just funny and worth telling in my opinion lol. Cheaters most times avoid intimacy with their boyfriends/girlfriends. There are probably more signs, but I can't think of them right now. I hope this helps. If not, I at least hope someone else has the right answer to tell you.
2006-11-01 17:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is acting flakey or isnt dependable and you have reason to question him, then you need to change boyfriends. If he's just working late,and you can drop by with a group of girlfriends and he's really there(wihout bugging him), then don't worry about it. It's when they goes days without answering the phone, or ignore alot of call when they are with you,ect. Just unusual things. You know how to be treated.Simple rule: If you don't like the way you are treated, no excuses needed, dump him.
2006-11-01 17:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by totallykat19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must confront him and look into his eyes, tell him that you have something on your mind, then ask him directly, "Are you cheating on me?" his body language and tone of voice will give you your answer! If he sweats frantically, or better if his eyes veer of from yours as you ask him your question, 9 times out of 10 you have officially found out that he has cheated on you or he's cheating on you. it is common knowledge that if you suspect someone is cheating on you, then they most likely are! don't waste time leaving the issue, address it asap or you'll go mad pondering what he's up to!
Best of luck!!!
2006-11-01 17:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by filmstu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only trust your gut instincts. I think snooping is a bad way to go even if it gets you the answer you want. If you never learn to trust your gut, you will be stuck in a cycle of "ok, I didn't find anything this time, but maybe I did look at enough or maybe I just didn't catch him yet" and always have a relationship based on mistrust. You'll never be happy.
2006-11-01 17:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get that ol' nasty feeling that's he's cheating, then odds are he is.
Do some detecting and get hard evidence before you go accuse him
9 times out of 10 it's someone you both know
2006-11-01 17:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by rsuavez66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does it really matter if he is or isn't?
I mean you obviously no longer trust him so why would you want to be with someone you don't really trust?
He must have done somethings in the past to make you loose your trust in him... and this latest thing is really just the last straw for you.
I say you should just break up with him - who needs this kind of drama - and move on and find someone you can trust!
2006-11-01 17:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only way to be for sure is to snoop. His computer his phone his drunk and I mean only ask when they are drunk his friends or his friends girlfriends. If you have this gut feeling. go with it. It is our 6th sense we women were born with. How does he talk when you call and he is out. Is he short with you? Does he leave out details? All of this is for sure cheating. Good luck and don't deny your gut feeling!
2006-11-01 17:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask people that wont tell him that you asked. And, better yet, confront him about it. I've had a b/f cheat on me before. Luckily, he was honest. If you find out he is, I do not reccomend going back. "Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me." Don't get hurt again.
Best of luck!
2006-11-01 17:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by MandieGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check his mobile phone bill for numbers he phones or txt's
Is he doing things out of the ordinary?
Is he cold towards you or over attentative?
Does he smell differently?All these are signs
Hope you find happiness
Jeff
2006-11-01 17:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust your gut instinct.
on the computer, go to the history and see what websites he has been visiting. If he's on some singles/dating websites then you know there is trouble
2006-11-01 17:07:05 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋