A while back i found an old video tape of my girlfriend from before I knew her doing things with her ex she doesn't do with me. She says that was a different time of her life. I love her but think she is using that as an excuse not to give me the same opportunities she gave him. What should I do?
2006-11-01 08:42:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Respect her as the person who she is today and destroy the tape. If you really love her you will accept what she told you and move on.
2006-11-01 08:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find men don't respond very well to "trying to explain things". He obviously doesn't seem to understand how disrespectful and inconsiderate keeping the tape is. Just be blunt. Tape is of him HAVING SEX with another WOMAN. If he wants to keep it, that's fine, but not in the house you to are creating together. It is your home as a couple which means. NOTHING in the house that involves your man having sex with another woman period. If he really wants it, let him keep it at a friends house. Or better yet his parents house. I'm sure he'd rather destroy it than have it close to his Mom.
2016-05-23 05:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems obvious that she does not want to be reminded of him. So for her to do those things would mean she would have him on her mind probably. Have a talk about this with her. And if it does not bother you that she might be thinking of him then you better be honest about and tell her. And she may also feel uncomfortable because you talk about it too many times. Don't bring it up anymore and it will soon happen. Warning: And when it does don't ask any questions.
Good-luck. Take care.
2006-11-01 08:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a comfort thing with her. There are things that took me over a year to be able to do with my current boyfriend out of shyness and "what will he think?" type attitude. Or maybe she just did not enjoy what she was doing but acted like she was for the old boyfriend.
2006-11-01 08:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by tangerbean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit worrying about it, what did you do with your old girlfriends? I think you are just jealous that you weren't that guy! but she is right, that is in her past and you are out of luck, if you don't like it, find someone who will give you what you want!
2006-11-01 08:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be over that phase of her life. But if you really want to try that with her DO NOT push for it. Give it time, and casualy sugest it to her that you want the two of you to try it.
But more than likely you are SOL, sorry buddy ur GF is used goods!
2006-11-01 08:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kinda things?
i believe that every relationship is a total different experience from the other ... so just look out for the relationship from different angles
2006-11-01 08:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry, how long have yall been together, she may not be comfortable enough with you, or she may not like how she feels when she was doing those things. give her time or talk to her about it
2006-11-01 08:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Teaza19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and ask her to be as honest as she can and to tell you the truth weather or not she was in a different time of her life or if it is just that she does not want to do that with you. you have to just be open and honest to resolve it.
2006-11-01 08:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let that go because that was before your time. You are with her not him. Let the past stay in the past.
2006-11-01 08:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋