why do parents flip out when you tell them that you are gay? when i told my dad he said that he wanted nothign to do with. why is that??????????
2006-11-01 08:31:56 · 10 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because they know that the lifestyle that you chose to lead is wrong & dirty. I am teaching my kids that the gay and bi lifestyle is a choice and that choice is so wrong. If you want to be in your parent's lives be normal and heathy. Date an marry a man. That is what God wants you to do.
2006-11-01 08:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's a shock. Culturally we're still in the mindset that our daughters will marry a man and our sons, a woman. That's just in a parent's head. In fact a lot of what kids do or say come as a surprise and parents are never quite ready for it.
Give them time. They need to get their heads round this. When things cool down go talk to them and don't get angry.( even if they do, keep your cool)
See if they want to ask you any questions.
If you don't think they'll talk to you, write a letter, not an accusing one, but just state how things are and how you feel.
They may be more likely to read a letter and they can't interrupt a letter.
It's kinda like 'not in MY house!'
They'll be worried about the neighbours and rellies finding out and I think that's natural if you're coming from where they are.
Time and patience. It'll be fine.
2006-11-01 18:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it has something to do with children. they think that since you are gay that they won't have grand kids. well these days that is not the case at all. they should be relieved that you told them instead of holding it in. so many kids these days get depressed and go down the wrong path. and some even end up killing themselves because of the pressure. give them time to absorb the new information. let their love and protection float back to the surface again. i am sure it will get better.
good luck.
2006-11-01 16:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they had some sort of ideal life for you in mind...like sometimes moms get upset because they won't be able to plan their kid's wedding. Stuff like that. It's not right that they want nothing to do with you but for some reason they are scared. You just need to slowly and surely remind them that you haven't changed AT ALL. You are still their child! Give it time and compassion.
2006-11-01 16:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents have this expectation that you will marry someone of the opposite sex. that's how most parents raise their children. so it is kind of a shock when you tell them you are gay. i think their first reaction is denial. like, "oh no, not my child!" so give it a little time. maybe your dad will come to accept your choice after a while. even if he does not, this is your life and your choice.
2006-11-01 16:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Diane M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume parents that 'freak out' upon hearing the news, do so because they feel that they have failed to bring up their son/daughter correctly. It could also be due to religous beliefs, and/or homophobia.
2006-11-01 16:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just ignorant & can't accept others for who they are. Your father isn't the only one who isn't going to agree with it, better get used to it.
2006-11-01 16:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by It'sMe23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to say I love your nickname.
2006-11-01 17:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok its llike a lizze borden fairy tale. JUST I AM NOT SURE WHY BUT TRY AND GET INVOLVED OR OR BE A PYSEXUEL OR WAIT THAT MIGHT NOT HELP
2006-11-01 16:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time and try to talk to him again it was probley a shock for him . well done to you for telling them,if he doesn't ace pt you that's his loss
2006-11-01 16:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋