Very nice older woman who just lost her husband?
any ideas
2006-11-01 08:21:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Take her out for dinner.
Visit her, give her flowers and a cake. Tell her to give you a call if ever she needs help around the house (things that an old woman can't handle, emergencies etc). It's good that she has your phone number and you hers in case you need to look out for her or help her. Older women are prey to intruders and robbers. Always keep a look out for her safety.
If she doesn't have relatives over on special occasions such as Christmas, Thanksgiving etc, try to include her in yours at least once a year or once every other year.
Yes, you are a very thoughtful young man. Your parents are a success having a son like you and you are a great success for who you are. Bless you.
2006-11-01 20:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Company! She may be very lonely now and people tend to avoid those who are in mourning. Stop by with some treats (chocolate is good!), or whatever you think she'd like, and just hang with her. If she wants to reminisce about her husband, Let her! My spouse worked in a nursing home while in college, and said that the thing most of the residents like most was having someone spend time and listen to them!
you have a good heart.
2006-11-01 16:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think flowers and a card. Now that her husband is gone, the days of getting flowers are just a memory. She will appreciate every nice gesture you can give to her.
In the card, be sure to give her an anecdote of her husband. Sharing anything you noticed about him will mean a lot to her. When my gram-pa died, my Nana's favorite cards were the ones with stories about my gram-pa. If you didn't know him well, share a story that she shared with you about him and make sure you let her know that you could see how much she cared for him.
2006-11-01 16:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by halarious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can give her is your offer of support and help. She is going to feel very along and afraid. Who will help lift and carry things for her, who will help hang a picture or eat her cookies, or watch TV with her at night. In a card I would offer these services when ever she might need them. No monetary gift will ever mean as much
2006-11-01 16:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by glester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candles and flowers are always appreciated.
Home made foods are as well, but you may need to know if they are on a special diet. It's nice to have finger foods available if she has guests over too.
During the holidays, a pine wreath is quite beautiful and you can offer to hang it for her as well.
2006-11-01 19:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her over to your next holiday dinner. My now-husband had lost his wife before a holiday. He said he was really down about it with all the celebrations. It really warmed his heart when a neighbor invited him.
2006-11-01 16:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Send a nice card and offer your time. Running errands, lawn work, a cup of coffee and a good ear to listen. She will probably just enjoy the company most of all.
How sweet of you.
2006-11-01 16:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by his temptress 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you'd like to spend; I think a monthly flower club would be a wonderful idea. She can receive a nice bouquet of flowers every month and think of how thoughtful you are.
2006-11-01 16:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by Tina T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Offer her your services as a driver for a while maybe, if she needs to go to the store, drive her, or better yet, get her shopping list and go for her! You're a very thoughtful young man, your parents should be proud of you.
2006-11-01 16:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by boker_magnum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving of yourself is the best gift you could ever give her. Material things lose there meaning sometimes, but doing things for her will never go un-noticed, and the rewards will be plentiful for you and her. And it will only cost you time.
2006-11-01 16:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋