ok me and my boyfriend has been going out for 6 months...he always comes over to my house, and i notice that he never suggested or invited me to his house... and when i asked... he said "i dont know" and i said why wont you invite me to your house? he says "i dont know" man... i dont know why... he just wont give me a reason... it doesnt make any sense at all... and like im the one who is always suggesting to do things and he doesnt, he's not the type who be like "oh hey we need to do this tonite" ya know??? man im so depressed. is he really a good boyfriend?? or not...
2006-11-01 08:19:14 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know where he lives, he lives with his brother, and he even tell me his brothers girlfriend is over, im thinking thats messed... if his brother can invite his girlfriend over... then why cant he??? and he says he really dont know.. thats his honesty... im so confused...
2006-11-01 08:27:59 · update #1
a dispensable one
2006-11-01 08:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like a good boyfriend FOR YOU. I mean, there is someone out there for everyone, and he obviously doesn't meet your criteria in a boyfriend. You shouldn't settle for less then you deserve. My boyfriend didn't invite me to his crib for the first 2 months or so. My dad said it was shady, and he probably had another chick or something.Turns out, he had a very good reason (roommate and bill issues). don't ump to conclusions. You could talk to him about how you feel. He'll open up, eventually if you have the patience. I did with my guy. But I saw the potential and goodness in him. So, I guess what I'm saying is if you think he's worth it and you aren't just in the relationship to say you are, then talk it out. Get to the bottom so this phase will pass. But if you need more, then go for it. You deserve all that you think you're worth, and don't ever let anyone tell you different! Good luck!
2006-11-01 08:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your BF is hiding something from you or someone. A guy that doesnt oput his all into a relationship usually is spreading himself thin with other women. Make sure you are not just a botty call to him. Everyone in this world deserves to be loved. You need someone to treat you the same way you treat your boyfriend, and thats how a loving relationship can grow. Dont sell yourself short
2006-11-01 08:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only six months and he's already like that. I say get out now! Find someone who is as much into the relationship as you are. He's already driving you crazy, why waist your time any longer? I don't think he's a good boyfriend if he were he would care more about your feelings instead of acting like a little boy.
2006-11-01 08:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's probably just embarassed about his house or something, it might be messy or maybe its not a happy environment and doesn't want to subject you to it. That does not make him a bad boyfriend.....if he is treating you well, and spends time with you, count your lucky stars and enjoy your relationship. These people telling you to dump him don't know all the facts, don't listen to them......ask him openly and tell him it's okay for him to tell you why he doesn't want to go to his place. If he knows that you won't judge him, maybe he will open up and tell you.
2006-11-01 08:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Scotty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be lots of reasons he doesn't want to go to his house..Perhaps not a good environment? As far as suggesting things to do, yes, he should have some input..Tell him it's his turn to come up with a plan! You should not have to be the one to always initiate your dates!! As far as being a "good" boyfriend, well, he may be, but just needs a little polishing!
2006-11-01 08:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by janet r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Be patient...there is nothing of what you said would make me label your BF as a bad person...
he maybe the shy type ..that's y he's not active!!
i agree with ya that he acts weirdly about not inviting you to his place but maybe his economical status is way too less that you!! maybe his house is not as good as yours?
maybe his parents are too tough or so strict that GF are not allowed
always find a reason before you judge
2006-11-01 08:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he's that interested in you. But maybe he just likes when you decide things. And maybe he doesn't invite you over his house because he has family problems. Maybe he just has a really crappy place and doesn't want ot be embarrased. If he treats you right and you love him I'd just try to talk to him.
2006-11-01 08:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by gabriella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hes not ready to be all open like you are,just give him some time if not then tell him you guys should be going out more instead of being at your house.
2006-11-01 08:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he's just ashamed of his house and is afraid to let you see it because it's not as nice as yours.
As for not being proactive in things to do, he may just be shy.
Nothing you said in this question makes me think he is a "bad" boyfriend. He may be a bit depressed or not confident in himself. Give him time, and he may open up.
2006-11-01 08:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he is embarrassed of how his house looks or maybe there is something in there he doesn't want you to see and hope that if something goes wrong, he won't dump him. I don't know but some guys are clueless about what they want. You just can't find out what you want at times
2006-11-01 08:26:37 · answer #11 · answered by moonhee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋