I was going to take my son driving on Sunday. I told him to give me 20 minutes to pick him up.. Well my BF, wanted me to say 30 minutes. Anyway, he got upset and said he feels he was being rushed (we were going to the store, which was around the corner) I told him I wasn't going to rush him.. Anyway, he hasn't spoken to me in 4 days. We live together and I feel uncomfortable. Like I did something terribly wrong.. I think he has taken it to the extreme...
2006-11-01 08:15:45 · 10 answers · asked by Torres 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think a 4-day fight over a 10-minute difference of opinion might be a little blown out of proportion. Are you sure this is what he's really mad about? People sometimes take a small quibble and blow it completely out of proportion...like this....while it's not actually what they are mad about. Maybe something else has been raking on him all this time, and he has chosen to vent his anger over this instead of addressing his real source of anger.
Even if I don't think you were really wrong, but if it seemed that important to him at the time, why didn't you just say "Fine. 30 minutes!"???....Maybe there is a power struggle going on between you and this was just icing on the cake. So get to the bottom of the matter. Apologize to him, whether you were right or wrong, and ask him if that's what's really bothering him, because you feel it might be something else. If he doesn't want to talk, just drop it. Pushing him will do no good. In time, you might figure out on your own what the problem is. Or, he may bring it up when he is less upset.
2006-11-01 08:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's been blown way out of proportion. Do you think there is an underlying issue? Like he has problems with your son or sharing his time with you with your son?
4 Days no talking, not good... Something is up.
2006-11-01 08:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this fight has been blown out of proportion. Do you want to be right or happy though? Try and talk to him and see if you guys can just forget the whole thing.
2006-11-01 08:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by ld123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have two sons. Yes way blown out of proportion. He is acting like the ten minutes would have killed him.
2006-11-01 08:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. It just sounds like your boyfriend is taking this way out of proportion. You shouldn't have to deal with that.
2006-11-01 08:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by BrandyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad - he needs to grow up. Work it out or move on. Arguing is one thing but not wanting to talk to you about it in a mature way is so wrong. I hope you work it out but if it keep going down the same path then boot him out.
2006-11-01 08:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds childish and petty! You did the right thing, there will always be the opportunity to be with another guy but you have only one son.
2006-11-01 08:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why couldn't he just stay home by himself if he didn't want to be rushed?
2006-11-01 08:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right. they are both acting like children and i say let them. if they don't want to talk to you be happy that you don't have to listen to them. and don't cook for them either. although if i were in your shoes i make me a nice steak dinner. . . that'll teach them not to cross you. remember the rules honey you are the QUEEN and you rule YOUR HIVE!!!!! IF MOMMMA'S NOT HAPPY AIN'T NOBODY HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-01 08:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Love United 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a whinny baby.
2006-11-01 08:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋