I have a lady that works with me and she is always bothering me. She calls me at least 5 times a day for no reason and gets mad when I go to lunch with someone besides her. What should I do?
2006-11-01 08:12:22 · 14 answers · asked by zachsmommy04 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This is a tricky situation. Being upfront and honest with her sounds like sound advice but sometimes even when we speak the truth, people do not forsee it that way. You need to tell her that you are your own person and have many co-workers whom you are friends with and that if you only go to lunch with her you are not being fair to the others. You can also use this trick when she calls you, say "Oh, you've caught me at a bad time, may I call you back when its conveniant for me?" or "I'm sorry, I've really got to get this done, can this wait?" Tell her your not trying to beg off, you just need to work and get your job done.
If those do not work go talk to your human resource manager or someone who can help you, good luck!
2006-11-01 08:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by T-Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, I know just what you mean! Honestly, there's no way to be nice to such a person. You'll tick her off no matter what you do. I say have some fun with it! It's a bit ornery, but try this....the next time she calls, right in the middle of a word disconnect the line. She'll call back saying you were disconnected, reply with an "oh, I'm sor....click". Keep doing it until she gets the message. I know, I know, it's equally rude but sometimes you just have to be. Why not have a little fun while you're at it!!
I do this to telemarketers and unsolicited sales callers quite often.
2006-11-01 08:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight in her face : < Dear, I'm not your puppet but an individual with her own preferences. stop acting like 6 year old we are not related but only coworkers> But if you want to be polite you should ex plane to her that you have to do your job and that she should stop calling you for no important reason at work. That you rather have lunch with other people who invited you before her and that your sorry but you have other friends beside her.
2006-11-01 10:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Taynha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like others have just about covered it. It might be awkward to address but it sounds like you need to stop the incessant calls.
How about setting a lunch date with her. While at lunch with her tell her you need to be free to get more work done during the day and her calls are interrupting your work flow. Try to be positive or encouraging to her like 'I really appreciate it when you...' but be clear that you want the phone calls to stop and that if it's non-work related she shouldn't be calling.
2006-11-01 08:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by stimply 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight that you cannot be having phone calls all the time and that you do have other friends to go out to lunch with. You have to be direct. If she does not stop, then go to your boss. Or you can tell her that you are busy and have to go, kinda blow her off. But I would be nice about it. Explain how you feel, see what happens.
2006-11-01 08:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front and tell her why you feel the way you do. Don't let her to continue to make you feel uncomfortable at work. She sounds like a stalker!!!
2006-11-01 08:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call her ten times a day and keep bothering her when she is busy.
2006-11-01 08:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by silvia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's playing games with you. Most likely she's jealous and unhappy. Be careful. Talk to her about your unhappiness with life in general but don't reveal too much. She'll use it against you.
2006-11-01 08:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by mac 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you have other friends and if she can't handle it, maybe she should get other friends too. Don't be cruel, just be honest.
2006-11-01 08:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you need your space and that other people are also demanding of your time. she has no right to dominate your social activity.
2006-11-01 08:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋