yeah i know that being single is a way to know myself better & just enjoying & appreciating the single life in my mid 20's. been trying to tell myself 'good love will come my way'. So i comfort myself to have fun.
Drinking with friends & having a great time wishing the nites wouldnt end till we pass out, it seems like an endless cycle of fun. But in the end its all temporary. When everyone is occupied one day. & you end up being alone, thats when I finally realize the drinking, the lust & infactuation, the good-times in general to me is all just my way of escaping from being alone & i know its not healthy. Most of my friends & relatives are in a relationship so i usually find some things to do on my own. Some would call me to see how i am doing but that makes me pitty myself even more. What can i do to appreciate being single & prove it to everyone? Have you ever felt like this before? (Pls no immature answers.)
2006-11-01 08:03:46 · 7 answers · asked by flipnburger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, everyone thanx for the quick reply everyone! where can I start? ya'll have great postive answers that can't choose just yet! I appreciate it =)
God Bless
2006-11-01 08:21:46 · update #1
well there's nothing wrong with feeling the need for "more" in ur life than just fun.. i think it's a sign of maturity, especially in a Man. :) so good for you!
1st of all, don't settle because u are alone. u know how much "fun" and stuff u can have by being single. appreciate and respect that... *however*, don't stop urself from searching for that person! keep dating.. it is sometimes a Numbers game, where the more people u get to know, meet, date, u will narrow down what u are Looking for in a partner. if someone catches ur eye, do soemthing about it. don't be afraid.. cuz remember, u don't mind being single. so keep seeking great people , friends, and acquaintances, and find someone who makes you WANT to be with her, only her. til then, keep working on your LIFE: ur appearance (work out, take care of urself, wear flattering clothes.. feel Good about yourself), ur mind (study, read more, learn more, discuss more, excel at hobbies), ur relationships (w/ friends, family, new people, strangerss): BE ABLE to carry on an intelligent conversation with anyone, be open minded, be attractive and positive and open... then u are making yourself into the kind of guy Any girl would want..and u can choose a girl who has the same qualities! good luck, and live ur life to the fullest: seek waht is Positive, Healthy, and Happy, and it will lead u to good things~
2006-11-01 08:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to prove anything to anyone but yourself? When your single you wish for a relationship When your in a relationship you wish you were single. Enjoy yourself while you can one day you will be devoting your time to a significant other. Try other things - drinking and partying is not the only thing to do to have fun. If you sank all the money you spent on drinking, you could go on great vacations. Spas, B&B's and yes you can do this all on your own. You will meet some great people travelling. Take some classes, beef up your brain. HAVE FUN!!! Love will come when the time is right for you!!!
2006-11-01 16:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Yes I can, but it was a long time ago -
1) There is a big difference between being alone and being lonley..
2) If you have family and/or friends then there is no reason to ever be lonley.
3) you should start meeting new people, dancing or doing an activity you like; something other than drinking til ya pass out..
4) As a single, it's way o.k. to have relationships with different levels of intimacy and commitment... you don't have to be moving towards marriage in every relationship ya know. Open your mind and broaden your horizons... Meeting new people is really fun and something most of us look forward to.
- hope I helped.
2006-11-01 16:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can tell you exactly what to do (been there and done that).
Go out and get a girlfriend. After a while you find out that she has 4 kids. Three from a guy she wasn't even married to, one that was a mistake. Also after a while you find out that she has a brother with a mental disorder and she will surely have to take care of him after her Dad passes on. Then you find out that.......well on and on. this happened to me and I am SO glad I got out of that mess and am back to being by myself and happy as can be. Don't ever think it's bad being single.
2006-11-01 16:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often, my friend..I have been married most of my adult life. Just in the last six years have i been single. I have found myself, entertained myself, and know what i really want out of life! It did not come easy, however, there were lots of lonely days and lonely nights. You just have to fill them, and at your age, i am sure you can!! There are worse things, look at some folks who ARE in a relationship and unhappy..At least you do not have to try to keep another person happy, just yourself!!! Best of luck to you!
2006-11-01 16:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by janet r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are only in your 20's, you have nothing to worry about. Just make sure when your out with friends that your not looking desperate and vulnerable and the love of your life will show up..Just have fun till than! Life is a blast if you allow it to be!
2006-11-01 16:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by acezr2wild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of drinking and passing out (which does not tend to be the start of a beautiful friendship!) why not look at interest clubs (drama, dog training, singing...that sort of stuff) or evening classes. They are a good place to meet more suitable future partners.
2006-11-01 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋