Well, I went over to a friends house that happened to be a guy of the same age as me on last Saturday. My boyfriend was 'curious' about this after I said there was nothing to worry about. Ever since he has been clingy, trying to act cool and funny, and being stupid and annoying. He keeps saying sorry and he loves me, but I just dont buy it anymore. PS-Im 13. Please no rude or mean answers/comments. Thanks.
2006-11-01 07:46:53 · 15 answers · asked by Sally 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think we're in love. I am worried about school. Im in advacned math and need to keep my grades up or else I'll get kicked out. I dont want that....
2006-11-01 07:59:58 · update #1
And I was hanging with the other guy for a birthday party of HIS LITTLE BROTHERS! I havent seen him ins so long and we've been friends since we could crawl.
2006-11-01 08:01:17 · update #2
First of all, at 13, you should be worried about school, and not BF's. At 13, you really don't realize the scope of what love is- no insult intended- ask anybody over 25 and you'll see that we are just now grasping ahold of what love is. Have friends, lots of them- male and female, and love- REAL love, will come in it's on due time. If he's as young as you are, he may just be jealous and unable to express it- or he may be insecure. Don't obsess over it- in a year, this will seem like small potatoes.
2006-11-01 07:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by justfeelingfroggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's being clingy, then that means he feels insecure, but also means that he's afraid of losing you. He probably does care about you a lot, and the reason for his clingy nature is that he thinks that you're desirable to most men, and you should accept this as a compliment.
You say he keeps trying to act cool and funny resulting in stupid and annoying behavior, but you didn't really give any detail about it so this question is impossible to answer. What is he doing?
If he act's like a smart@$$ and tries to embarrass you in front of his male companions, then perhaps you should tell him you want to split up until he can treat you with some respect, and actually do it. Since he is thirteen and male, it is hard to sit down with him a have a adult conversation. Teenage males feel like they have to impress their friends to become accepted - and this might be the reason for his strange behavior. It's all about impressing and impressing. Remember, woman are more mature compared to men. And I am a 25 yr old man - so no bombshells from males please.
This may or may not help.
As of, "what you should do", you should to try to talk to him on a serious level without putting him down. Try to tell him how you feel
from a inside level, and if he's not willing express his feelings in a serious nature (that shows he really cares) then maybe you should split.
(And mostly, listen to the people on this board. I'm sure a lot of them have been through this before)
2006-11-01 08:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by jay_p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are only 13...Take your time with relationships. Sometimes you can see those red flags that says that he's not right for you. I don't really know your whole story, but I would not be worried about a realtionship now...Maybe at 16, but 13 is way to early to deal with the stress of realtionships. I do not believe that your boyfriend knows what loves is. It's not possible at this age. That is considered lust and obsession. Just be you, be a teenager. trust me, as you get older you are gonna wish you were a teenager again.
2006-11-01 07:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sexlyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend?
I am sorry, I'm not making a rude comment here but I don't think 13 y.o's can actually be in love. I am sure it feels like it now, but you will know one day. My point is don't get involved in silly games. You and your boyfriend are both playing these games. You are making him jealous and he is being clingy. Stop the games.
Please, if you are 13, just be a kid. Don't worry about boys for a few years!
2006-11-01 07:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down I think we know when something isn't meant to last, and on a subconscious level we understand what is happening, but outward we cling, and act stupid, and try to hold on as tight as possible in hopes that we won't lose that which we have grown accustomed to. I think your boyfriend is afraid of losing you, and when you hang out with other guys he thinks he has lost you. If his actions bug you though then he isn't the one for you. Best of luck.
2006-11-01 08:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tracie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he should be worried.
You have to understand that whenever you are in a "committed" relationship - and at your age committed means bf/gf - anytime you start spending time with another boy means that you are still "looking".
Its just the way guys see things. He sees that you are not really into him and that this other guy has something he doesn't so he is trying to make sure that you spend all your time with him and not any other guy.
2006-11-01 07:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest talking to him about it. Tell him that you're not into clingy guys, you like being around him, but you feel like you're backed up against the wall. Explain to him that you do want to have a life other then just him all the time. And, if he continues with his clingy and annoying behavior then it's best to just dump him. You're young and you'll have plenty more years to meet better guys.
2006-11-01 07:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off...like you said your 13! you are way to young to know what love is....im sorry but its the truth. you have your whole life to look forward to. you shouldn't be committed to the one guy for a long period of time...but then you shouldn't also cheat on him...and he doesn't really love you...he loves the idea of you...there is a big difference. trust my i used to be thirteen not very long ago and my sisters are at that age....
2006-11-01 07:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by confused07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK , THAT YOU are to young to have a relationship or a boyfriend. it sounds like hes jealous and is scare to loose you. tell him how you feel about he's behavior. good luck i hope everything work's out for you.
2006-11-01 07:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isnt real - your thirteen - thats like one year older than 12, 2 years older than 11 - not real - cant have a relationship - not real
2006-11-01 07:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋