Why can I not find a guy to appreciate me? My last boyfriend was such a jerk to me I was appalled I even dated him as long as I did.
Now it seems to me that all men are like that and now I approach with caution.
I'm a nice girl, I think I;m pretty, I work out, and I have good conversation. Why is it so hard to find someone close to my age, who is pursuing a career or school, doesn't do drugs, is attractive, good in bed, and doesn't have five kids or one arm.
Why is that so hard to find? And why are all the good ones taken?
2006-11-01 07:45:46 · 25 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They're not all taken.
I used to think the same thing and everyone kept telling me what I'm telling you...they're not all taken and you will meet one when the time is right.
Turns out 'everyone' was right. I had boyfriends that cheated, lied, disrespected me as a person, a woman, and as their girlfriend. When I least expected it and after years of bitterness, mistrust and wariness towards guys...mine came along.
It's still new (we've dated about four months) and I'm learning more about him, me, and us every day. I'm not used to being treated so well - and accepting & enjoying that is almost harder than being treated poorly. Because it's easier to take the bad things when we don't truly feel like we deserve better. It seems like the minute I started to value myself, someone who values me more came along.
I know it's hard to leave baggage behind. But it should be easier - after all, it's pretty dang heavy. Just drop it. Be open to the fact that there are good guys in this world and not all men really are dogs/jerks (insert your favorite man-hating word here). Your time will come...but not until you're ready.
Hope you are found by one of the good one soon! Everyone should feel what I feel. (: Bliss.
2006-11-01 07:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Grá 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question I ask the same thing every day. There is no answer to this question. I attract all the wrong ones. Im bery cautious around blokes now, infact i find it easier to stay single even though i crave to find someone i can respect and treat me right. Which unless there are men like that on mars i cant see it happening.
Wont stop me looking though.lol good luck with your hunt.
Good ones are married or gay.
2006-11-01 15:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're proabaly taken because they are all the things you listed and every girl wants that in a guy. The reality is that you're going to have to compromise. And don't worry...your Mr Right will be along soon.
2006-11-01 15:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are attracted to the wrong types of men. There's good ones out there.
2006-11-01 15:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl, I am feeling that way too. But you need to remember that no one is perfect, but someone is perfect for you. You just need to wait for that guy to come around. Lay off the boys, stop looking. I've found that if you don't try things will happen faster. If you stop looking, you'll find your special guy soon enough!
2006-11-01 15:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by TheHillsLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent a good looker, thats all.
i hate when women come on here and talk about how hard it is to find a good guy. you know dam well that its not hard. only as hard as you make it.
quit going for those loser type men. whatever you may think, realize that you CANNOT i repeat, CANNOT change them.
go for the quiet cute guys instead. they will treat you with respect and everything else.
2006-11-01 15:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Little Black Riding Hood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. go 4 the not so good lookings. my mom always tells me they are the ones who no how to treat some 1. yeah all those jocks and stuff they have not a clue of how to treat a girl.
2006-11-01 15:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your pretty ad have nice convos, hmmm you sound like a f ucking winner, well thats nice to know, but here is your problem you want it all, like mofo'in warren g... and it aint happenein, i know for a fact that nothing in life is perfect that includes yourself, so you need to relax and stop looking for the perfect man, just look for a good one and change him, damn, change him, and if you are as hot as you say you are then maybe he will... good luck
2006-11-01 15:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During my past experiences, guys don't know exactly what they want. It doesn't matter if your pretty, poplar, whatever they just to blind to see that they have a good woman by their side. Don't worry there are someone out there for you, just let them come to you.
2006-11-01 15:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Imani♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in or around the Cincinnati area you should let me know, I hear I am a nice guy at least.
2006-11-01 15:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋