i dont want to dump him but i love god more i want to help or make him understand. he steals cares cusses and i want him to not stop completly i just want him to seatle down.
2006-11-01 07:40:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make someone believe in God. I've tried that in the past and it doesn't make much difference - unless they want to believe. Pray for him and about the situation and ask for God's will in the situation. In the meantime, listen for His answer and invite your boyfriend to church. If this is the man God has for you, He will work in his life. Until then, remember what my pastor's wife told me - it's much easier for someone to pull you off a chair than for you to pull someone up on to the chair with you. (hope that made sense) - In other words, don't let him pull you down to where he's at. Stay grounded in your faith and have faith that God will give you the strength to do what's right. Good luck!
2006-11-01 07:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
religion is a big issue and you should not try and change someone just because they have different beliefs than you. didn't you know how he was when you first got together, because if you had a problem with it you should have brought it up in the beginning. also why would you say you dont want him to stop completely just settle down that makes no sense, so is it ok if he steals a candy bar but not ok if he steals a car? you should really think about it because he is most likely not going to change his ways now especially if there is no benefit for him and he might just start doing it behind your back.so you should probably leave him now
2006-11-01 15:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by GENNY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Rocky
I'm puzzled what makes you think he needs your help. Better yet, what puts you in that more esteemed position to "render him help"?
Look, you want to be in a relationship, you gotta see each other as equals, it's called respect.
Respect him enough that you don't think he's a sinner for being godless or believing other than what you wish him to.
He in turn (ideally) will respect your beliefs.
Fullstop, that's it. There's no help or change or conversion involved. Love takes care of the rest.
So if you can't accept what me and everyone else has put forward, you'll prob do better with a nice boy from the church you go to. Ke-pish?
2006-11-01 23:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him, the only person you can change is your self. But you can tell him, that you would appreciate he not cuss in front of you. that you want him to respect you. And if he is not going to settle down, Girl you do not need him, if he is not settled down now, it may take him years, and a whole lot of heart ache. Is this what you want? Sitting around waiting for him to grow up. while your life is passing you by. God wants more for you! Don't you?
2006-11-01 15:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't "help" him. you could pray for him if it makes you feel better. sure. it seems like regardless of how religious you are, you are still attracted to bad boys. you had to have known what he was like before you fell in love with him, and then you fell in love with him still. so love him for what he is and what he isnt. as long as he's good and respectful to you. you cant force your beliefs on anyone, or you will force them away from you. good luck and dont look down on him just because he doesnt have the same relationship with God as you do. he could still be the one for you.
2006-11-01 15:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by nicekitty_meeooww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make him find god because chica if he doesnt believe he may never will you just have to accept that and not force anything on him as far as the cars and stuff dont use god to make him stop you as a person make him stop cause if you say its not holy he wont care believe me good luck
2006-11-01 15:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe either and I don't believe a woman could ever make me believe. This is a core belief, to believe or not to believe. It would be like my favorite color being red...and a woman tries to convince me it's not my favorite color. Some beliefs just ARE and no amount of convincing is going to change it. There are millions of men who believe in God, just keep looking for one for you...
2006-11-01 15:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by docketfull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't force anyone to accept our Lord. But you can tell him why YOU believe, and how God has helped you. If he makes fun of you in any way, dump him. You won't be happy with someone who cannot tolerate and respect your beliefs, you know.
2006-11-01 15:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who he is Muslim or ..... What is so difficult for him to accept your believing. Is like no respect or just dummy game from him.
Live the man, get the right one who believe in God.
2006-11-01 15:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him. That is the best thing you can do. Also, don't be afraid to talk about your faith. Even if he sounds uninterested, the Lord will use that to plants seeds in his heart. Just keep on praying.
2006-11-01 15:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋