Would it be wrong to tell my parents that my brother is gay? This would be without his consent.
2006-11-01 07:40:33 · 20 answers · asked by Christopher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Would it be wrong to tell my parents my brother is gay?
I know he is gay because he had confided in me about 2 years ago but then, about two weeks ago my brother, mom, dad and myself went out to dinner and I was sitting next to him and from under the table i could feel something on my leg and looked down and it was his hand!!! i freaked out and excused myself from the table and went outside, i am so uncomfortable with this, and this isn't the only time he has tried something, my parents dont know he is gay and i am wondering if i should tell them because it is freaking me out at the fact that i am his brother and he is touching me.
2006-11-01 07:49:49 · update #1
Perhaps I am missing something but it seems that the most important issue you should be concerned with is the advances of your brother. I do not think that him being gay is the issue, i think the fact that he is displaying incestuous behavior may be the big problem. If this is actually happening, you need to tell someone, if not your parents then someone in the legal field.
2006-11-01 07:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt tell them anything, you would loose his trust, and its not your right to say anything, if he wants to tell them let him otherwise dont tell them as it will only cause trouble between you and your brother and your brother and your parents. Especially if you know they wont accept it. If he wants to tell them he will tell them when he is ready dont rush things along . Although it shouldnt matter whether they know or not its could be a big deal to him. Im bi and I have never told my grandparents ( who I consider my parents) because I know how they would react
Some things are better off left not known to others. Its his own personal life and if he wants to tell them let him be the first to step up, its not your place. Most of all accept your brother you cant help being gay most are just born that way.
2006-11-01 07:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong for you to inform your parents that your brother is gay. If he confided in you that he was, you are betraying his confidence. Coming "out of the closet" is a very difficult process for some people.....what your thinking about doing is shoving him out. He needs to be able to tell your parents in his own time and he could be so worried about rejection that it could take years before he makes that choice.
At times I had felt that my brother was gay during our teen years, he finally told me that he was after I was married and had my second son. He was so worried about what I thought about him that he wanted to know if I still loved him and was afraid that I would keep my kids from seeing him. It is very sad to see that kind of turmoil inside your sibling when they are struggling with who they are. My advice is to leave it be, let him do his thing in his own time and most definitely be there for him.
2006-11-01 07:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by wintersimjp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me id say it wouldnt be wrong because they have the right to know. Then again he is your brother and oviously doesnt want you to tell them. Si if i was you i would tell them because then theres no more hiding things everyone can be care free.<33
2006-11-01 07:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is a very personal issue and personal choice. It is perogative to tell them or not. Do you want him going to your parents with all of your personal secrets? It has to be on his time table...not yours.
2006-11-01 07:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is your brothers personal life. Maybe you could talk to him and ask him to talk to your parents about it. But don' t talk to them if you haven't even talked to him yet! I understand that you are concerned and I don't blame you there but you need to let him do this by himself.
2006-11-01 07:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by TheHillsLover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs treatment *** counseling so as to return to his standard and graceful life. As you are his brother, its bettet to help and thru a dcotor. In the long run it will be beneficial for your family.
2006-11-01 08:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is not your place, give your brother some time and some room, he will do so when he is ready.
2006-11-01 07:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Princesses Pound Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stir up sh*t when theres no need to. You sound like you would be doing it just to be mean. Are you really that mean and what has your brother done to you to make you want to butt yourself into his personal buisness.
2006-11-01 07:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be wrong he will tell them when hes good and ready.
2006-11-01 07:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋