anybody got any advise about bullys?

Question

my 12yr old daughter is getting bullyed shes really quiet and wont stand up for her self i dont no what to do other than contact the school but shes told me that wont help it will just get worse

Answer 1

Most schools have a zero tolerance policy on bullying. They will take it seriously. If nothing is done about it, it isn't going to get better, they will pick on your child and will pick on other children as well.

Answer 2

Yes, it IS your job to protect your child - BUT be careful you don't make it worse. This bully won't just be at the school. If your daughter is caught alone after school, it could be much worse. You have to weigh all your options. I do agree with teaching her to protect herself -- ck into classes. I had taught my kids never to fight. If walking away was an option then go! One day I got a call from the Principal that one of my sons had been in a fight (about 12 or 13). I could feel my blood start to boil -- he then said "He did NOT start it - he only protected himself and then walked away". Can't argue with that, he did what he was taught.

PS -- By the way, the bully NEVER even walked close to him again - never, even through High School!!

Answer 3

My son had this same problem but the only advice i can give you is to tell your daughter to stand up for her self. My son tried telling his teacher didn't work then he tried to just ignore it and the bully started hitting him finally my son had enough, he ended getting into a physical altercation but that bully doesn't bother him any more. It is sad but sometimes school officials can't or don't follow up with these issues an ultimately your daughter will have to take matters into her own hand.

Answer 4

The reason bullies bully other people is because they think it makes them look "big" in front of their friends. When they push someone around, and get the desired reaction (fear), they continue to bully that person. If they don't get the desired reaction, they will eventually go elsewhere. Maybe if she concentrated on ignoring them, and avoiding them whenever possible.

Your daughter is probably right.....you going to the school administration might only make things worse for her when the bully finds out. But something needs to be done.

Answer 5

Contact the school. They are really tough on the bullies in alot of places. They could be suspended from school and then they can be the ones to find out how nasty it is to live in intimidation. It has gotten really rough out there and bullies are no longer tolerated. You may also want to put your daughter in a class for karate. I think it may give her more self confidence and less fear if she know she can defend herself.. If you do decide on this route make sure it is a good place and the kids are taught self control. before defense

Answer 6

When I was 12 years old life sucked! I was the chubby gurl who everyone used to make fun of. But because of that experience I have changed for the better. I think that experience has hurt me mentally for a long time. I think that you should ask your daughter what SHE wants to do. If she wants to switch schools (if possible) if not there is counselling. I am a counsellor and I feel that she needs to gain self confidence. She needs that because she needs to stand up for herself. Once she is able to stand up for herself the bullys will back off. If you need any extra help I will leave my email so we can chat privately. my email address is [e-mail]

Answer 7

I would not only contact the school but the parents of the child too. Believe me, most of the time the other parents have no idea it is happening! Most schools have a no tolerance rule because parents were suing the schools for not keeping their kids safe. It will help! I would also put he in a self defense class, or karate class. She NEEDS to learn to stick up for herself or it will never get better no matter how old she is.

Answer 8

Bullies are quite easy. The next time your daughter gets bullied by this person, have her ask them off the wall questions like"do you drink motor oil?" or "What's your mother's favorite dish." When she asks off the wall questions, the bully will be stymied to the point of ignoring her after a while. This is the same technique I've used on my chief and others that have annoyed me in the past.

Answer 9

Thank God my sons did not face this scenes. However, my neighbor told me her story and solution. Her daughter was experiencing this situation when attending high school with one of her school's mate and neighbor -at the same time. One day the girl visited her home, knowing her daughter was not at home requesting for a shirt. She even wanted to get in and look for the shirt. ??? My neighbor did not let her get in, but she told her she wanted to talk with her about bullying her daughter. She told her that she was going to take care of her instead of her mother and was going to talk to the school's principal, It worked. However, I agree that you should contact the school's principal. I work as substitute teacher, and the schools' administrators are zero tolerant abouts this students' behavior. Good luck!

Answer 10

She's in basic terms 11 years old and if she controls you at present, what's going to she be like at 15 and older. tell her that you want her yet get rid of privileges even as she acts like a spoilt brat. that is too undesirable your spouse had to contain her in human being issues. If she'll agree take her out for a coke and fries or some type of take care of so that you'll get in route of her and once you've a chance clarify to her that her mom and also you're having some issues right this moment, like diverse married couples in spite of the indisputable fact that it does not recommend that you do not nonetheless love her. possibly even take her fishing with a buddy if she enjoys that because you want to close this hollow between both of you even as you nonetheless can.

Answer 11

In america, every child has a right to free public education. A bully prevents education from taking place. Call the school. Its the School's legal obligation to prevent interference in education. your daughter is not the only victim of this bully, and she is brave enough to tell you-- dont let her down.