I invited him to a tailgate for the football game Saturday. I have a bachelor pad pretty much. I have a couch I thought he was going to sleep on. How do I put both of them up for the night? I have an extra bedroom but no extra bed.
2006-11-01 07:35:57 · 26 answers · asked by Theandysullivan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just be honest about it and say you were only expecting your buddy. And that you have no more room. Ask if he wants his friend to sleep on top of him on the couch, that should be obvious enough.
2006-11-01 07:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if your friend didn't ask if it was OK to bring a friend, then you need to tell him why you don't appreciate that. Friends and family both need to understand that not asking and announcing they are coming or bringing somebody else or bringing an animal is unacceptable. I expect others to respect me by asking if it's ok to come to my house and if it's ok to bring a friend or their animals; otherwise, I will tell them not to come at all if they cannot respect my wishes by asking. If they cannot understand my reasoning, that's OK, but they cannot expect to walk over me and expect me to be happy about how they handled situation.
As far as the bedding situation goes, I think a lot of the answers you have already gotten are very good. It's just a matter of how you want to deal with the situation. I do think if you have room and the money to buy an extra bed for that extra bedroom, you need to do it when you can, but don't feel you have to do it because you are having company. I have slept on a couch and it's not very comfortable to sleep on unless it's a sleeper couch where it has a mattress inside it. I think the futon couches and chairs are great options for extra sleeping arrangements and they are inexpensive compared to beds.
2006-11-01 16:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that next time you'd like a little warning before he brings someone, because you want to be able to accomodate everyone with a sleeping arrangement before they arrive, and knowing beforehand wouldnt make you feel so rushed to get a space for someone else to sleep. If you take couch cushions, or any pillows, and line them up and maybe put a few extra blankets down, he should be fine on the floor, just let him know that as a bachelor, you dont have to have the finest living quarters....that's what men get when they marry in. Being playful, but also letting him know that you wish you had better sleeping situations. They'll understand!
2006-11-01 15:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by overwhelmed85 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is the problem that you don't have sleeping arrangements, that you didn't want a 3rd wheel, or were you just taken aback because of his audacity?
The answer to the sleeping arrangement is pretty clear, as many have mentioned: blanket and pillow on floor. Tell THEM to bring them.
The 3rd wheel issue is a lot more complex. You'd just have to deal with it.
The rudeness issue is simple: Slap him in the chest with an etiquette book. If he's a real friend you can joke about it. We guys rib (pun unintended) each other all the time.
2006-11-01 19:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best host rolls with the punches.
Go out and get an air mattress. You can find them for about thirty dollars. If you don't want to spend that kind of cash, you can just offer them the room and explain that you were unprepared for two guests, but if they want to get an air mattress, they can do that or take turns with the couch and the floor.
Most important: have fun! Your friend is bringing another friend. It's double the fun, right?
2006-11-01 16:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by halarious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll since you do have a spare room you could always buy a bed or you could try a hid a bed couch. even a futon. look at thrift stores maybe family and friends.or you could go buy a blow up mattress like (Ozark Trail Queen Size Velour Top Air Bed With Pillows & Pump 24.84 @ wal-mart.) after your friend arrives have a private chat about what he did and that he should have asked first...
2006-11-01 15:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by NDmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since your friend did not think to ask if it would be ok, I think you are being very gracious by letting this friend of your friend into your home. That being said, I do not think you need to go out of your way to accommodate sleeping arrangements... a few extra blankets and another pillow is all they'd get out of me!
2006-11-01 15:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by anti pc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have no room for an extra guest and offer to make hotel reservations at the friends expense.
2006-11-02 07:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them deal with it. They imposed themselves on you. Im sure they have plans for afterwards. If not, extra pillows and a sheet on the floor always works.
2006-11-01 15:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the friend of your friend decide what he wants to do. If you're ok with the both of them staying with you, and the friend's ok with sleeping on the floor why not? If the other guy makes a bad impression on you- then obviously don't allow him to come back.
2006-11-01 15:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kristy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋