My boyfriend and I have been living together for a while, almost a year- and we're stable. We have a very strong relationship with open communication, we're very much in love, never ever fight, and everything's perfect. We've talked and we both want what everyone wants- a family someday. Well we're on a little bit of a late start, since I'm 24 and he's 26, and both of us still have between a year and 2 years of school left. We've agreed before that a baby shouldn't come for 3 more years or so, at least until we're done with school. And this is logical~ but my maternal instincts tell me that I want a baby now! I really do. I'm not a teen anymore, but responsible adult and I know that we'd be great parents. I'm not going to set him up or anything, I want my baby to be planned and wanted by both of us. Should I wait to finish school? Or talk to him about wanting one now? Personal stories are welcome too! Thanks so much! :]
2006-11-01 07:23:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
, you are not off to a late start-your timing is great .with modern medicine advanced the way it is ,women can start families in their 40's .please wait!-at least until you are in your thirties. establish your career -your own identity. Make sure you have yourself financially established -great credit , etc. . invest your own money in property (houses). pay off student loans, then enjoy being a couple ,take trips and really build on your friendship with your boyfriend.
2006-11-01 07:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by t m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first - finish school. You will regret it if you don't. Second, get married - if you're truly happy and in love, there's no reason why you can't do this. And yes, it's OK to wait 3 years or longer to have a baby - 26 and 24 are great ages, not too old at all!
I'm 28 and married a year, husband is 36 and I don't even want kids - not sure I ever will.
If you were 38, it'd be a different story. Relax. You've got plenty of time.
2006-11-01 07:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that you should wait. Finish school because right now I am 20 with a lil 1 year old son and yes, i finished high school but would love to move on to higher education and well it is alittle harder. first I would have to find a baby sitter to watch him on top of the hours that I work. Then I would miss out on alot of time with him. So I am putting it back until I fill that he can handle me not being around. So if I were you I would wait. But... I am a single parent, and you, you have someone right there that loves you very much. So if you feel that you can handle it then go for it. Just what ever you do you finish school!!! Wish you luck.
2006-11-01 07:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The urge to have a child is very strong at this time in life. I guess that is good. What I would do is wait about a year and a half and then get pregnant. Which would put the baby due 3 months after you graduated. 18 months is not very long. Please get married before the baby this will give both of you the security you need to be very good parents. Your child will thank you by being a secure, happy and well behaved child.
2006-11-01 07:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard to wait, but you really should. By having a baby now, you will add so much stress to your life that you really don't need. When you are done with school, you will have more time to devote to the baby and concentrate on his/her needs. Can you imagine trying to study for a final or write a paper with a screaming baby?
The best things are worth waitng for. If you have maternal instincts, get a puppy in the mean time. I know it doesnt compare to a baby, but it is something. Good Luck! =)
2006-11-01 07:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by lion75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to you boyfriend about what you are feeling, but I would suggest that you wait until you finish school or are close to finishing school. I have a two year old now, I am working full-time, and am a full-time student, and it is tough on me. I am in school now because I want to be finished before my son starts school. I would recommend to anyone who is your situation that you should wait. As long as you have a stable relationship and a willing partner. Take the time to enjoy one another, because once the little one gets here, they demand a lot of your time.
2006-11-01 08:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely wait especially as both of you are still studying..it s really tough to manage a baby and school at the same time.My friend who is married told me it s really tough for her..besides you only have two more years and a womans reproductive age is still active until early 30's.I emphathize with you for i too sometimes have desires to have a baby but then when i think about the kind of life i can provide for my baby now being still in university,i change my mind..
2006-11-01 07:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by GIna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes wait until you finish school, having a baby is not just being emotionally stable it is also being financially stable. Babies are a big responsibility. I ended up a single mom and raised my son alone for 14 years, no welfare, state or family help, it was very hard!!
2006-11-01 07:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by bam.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would finish school first. I'm in college too and my classes are full of mothers. They love the fact they're parents but often say they regret not having a lot of time to spend with their kids since they're in school. They have homework and studying to do and many of them have jobs as well. So I would wait till I was out of school and have a good job. That way you wouldnt have to worry about money, studying, and have a better schedule to spend with your child. Hope this helps and good luck to you both!
2006-11-01 07:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by bassmaim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen guys about your age have kids and finish school, but it is very difficult to accomplish. It will be a major distraction from your studies, and your studies, etc. will be a major distraction from your parenting. Why don't you wait out the time, and put the priority where it belongs? You have quite a few years yet to have a baby.
2006-11-01 07:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 02:36:47 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋