Hi my name is Trevor and I was wondering what type of guy you like to go out with. Because I am 24 years old and I am still a virgin and have never been on a single date and I was wondering why this is. I am not hot or anything but I am not ugly either. I am sensible. Quiet and serious for my age. Please help me understand why I am still single and have not had a girlfriend yet. thank you.
2006-11-01 07:20:50 · 23 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this reminds me of the "yellow fever" movie made by an asian at UCSD for his arts project. it can be found on the internet in a numerous places, one of which is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIIoc8R26iM
in it he claims that asian chicks dig white guys and goes on a quest to figure out why he can't get any women. in the end, the sagacious indian guru cups his hands and claims that is because of his "small confidence" and that the reason that asian chicks go out with white guys is because the white guys (as a stereotype) don't mess around expecting girls to drop in their laps and ask them out on a date like the stereotypical asian guy who is not hot and not ugly.
the ending is nice for those of african american persuasion.
2006-11-01 07:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Gina S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quiet, serious, and sensible are all okay, Trevor! But do you have a sense of humor, too? That's really important. I like people who can make me laugh. Think about really putting yourself out there where girls can see you. If you are in school, join some clubs, study groups, etc. Start volunteering for groups you are interested in -politics, social, charity, civic, etc. Now is a great time to volunteer for political organizations. Be visable, so girls can see you. Start smiling, and watch girls start to notice you!
2006-11-01 15:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Trev, it has nothing to do with being hot or not, because i know many guys that fall under the ugly column and the hot column and both have had tons of dates!!
Have you ever asked a girl out on a date or are you turned down every time you ask!?!? if you are being turned down, then you need to change your approach.
Girls usually want a guy that is sensitive to our feelings, a guy that listens, and a guy that makes us laugh.
Go out, try some new places!!! Hang in there!!!
2006-11-01 15:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by flowergirlsdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...Trevor...maybe you should step out of your little world and analyze your situation for a minute. Most girls don't like serious guys. Maybe one, you can put a little humor into it. two, because your quite...maybe you can try to be a little more outgoing. Take baby steps. If you can do that then.....you will over come your problems and meet someone. Good luck. Also try Internet dating. It may work for you. They actually match you up with someone that they think is compatible for you.
2006-11-01 15:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a few friends that are like this and they all have one thing in common. They dont get out and have fun or do stuff. If you are into any sports maybe join a Co-ed team so you can get used to being around and talking to girls. You may even meet one. Or join the gym, lots of girls there. Dont you work with some girls? Ask them out for fun as just friends to build your confidence.
There are so many ways to meet people. Just dont join or do stuff that you dont like cause than you may be very tenative and un relaxed.
2006-11-01 15:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by acezr2wild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might be your confidence level. if you are unsure of yourself it may come off as strange or even creepy to some girls.
you seem like a sweet guy, try putting yourself out there, smile a lot, loosen up and find a girl you really like. Most girls like romance, but not if it's taken too far, that can be suffocating. A lot of talk/pressure about sex and related activities can be off-putting as well.
When you find a girl be yourself, let her get to know you rather than just being quiet. A guy who has nothing to say can come off as not interesting or not interested.
As for personal preference, what your question asks for; I like a guy with a good sense of humor who is outspoken but polite, is comfortable with who he is and has a nice smile. You don't have to be good looking to have a nice smile.
I'll also let you in on a secret, girls don't want sensitivity as most people would think it. Girls like to feel protected by her man, as chauvinist as that may sound, it's true. Sensitivity to her emotions is nice (that's what we want), but a guy who cries at the drop of a hat is not attractive.
Also, some girls like to be chased, just to ensure that the guy is really interested in her and not her special parts.
Hope I helped, and good luck finding that special someone!
2006-11-01 15:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try skydiving! Girls like daring people. Actually, the real reason that girls probably arent into you is that you are to good for them. Not many girls appriciate a guy that is sensible. Hope you find one that does!
2006-11-01 15:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still live at home and don't have a car, that might be a problem, are you working, or going to school?
And if you are on a date don't tell them you're still a virgin!
Or could be that you're just too shy. Get over it!
2006-11-01 15:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some dancing lessons, get GOOD at it (it'll be hard at first, like it was for me). After some 6 months (yes, it takes TIME) go out dancing and you'll be getting more than you bargained for... maybe even an STD! (but that's one of the stories you just don't tell the grandkids)
2006-11-01 15:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by RivatricHistrionic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol well it depends.. do you go out alot.. maybe try to go out and meet different people. im mean your old enough you could go to clubs and what not and try to find a girl. and if your good looking it wont be that hard because alot of girls go for that these days.. lol good luck trevor.. : )
2006-11-01 15:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by K-luh Fo S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋