I just learned that on the day of our breakup, she posted a question asking if a relationship with a pushy guy would work. Of course, everyone told her no. But if you ask the full question?
Is it wrong for a guy to plead with his girlfriend to try to get her mom to trust him, since her mom is against multicultural dating and hates him? Should he be broken up with for doing that?
Opinions would be nice.
Thank you for your time.
2006-11-01 07:19:38 · 15 answers · asked by jlnajera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, the dad is not racist. And she thinks I'm pushy because of my "tone of voice", but all I ever did was tell her what I thought, and let her decide for herself what to do, which she decided A)Not to talk with her mother, and B)Break up with me because of it. But my tone of voice that weekend had a lot to do with the fact that my father had just disowned me, which she knew about, but she decided to leave me too, anyway.
2006-11-01 07:26:31 · update #1
Oh, and I also tried to see if she would let me talk to her mom herself. She refused, because she knew her mom would not even give me a chance to prove myself. The whole point was to try to get my girlfriend to try to get her mom to let us have some freedom in our relationship, with her mom not trusting me for no reason and all.
2006-11-01 07:29:49 · update #2
P.S.:Shelly, are you forgetting that I'm not being trusted because of racist stereotype? Her mom trusted a white guy named Jason without question, and he tried to get her to fool around in the movie theatre on the first date! I also believe her mother should trust her daughter to do the right things, if trust anyone.
2006-11-01 07:34:23 · update #3
There are always two sides to a story, thank you for filling in other half. It's a shame that her mother is so close minded but each to their own. If your girlfriend did give you the travel card then keep your chin up and realize that you will soon meet someone who can look past the colour of your skin and get to know you for what's inside. Begging your girlfriend to try and get her mom to trust you is probably a waste of time as her mindset is one of no tolerance. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-01 07:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you both are wrong!!! one you should love her enough to pray on it. and if you really want to get in good with her mother. take your girlfriend to church. women have been done so bad until no mother trustes any man. men aren`t men anymore.what is so special about you that you would want someone to trust you with their daughter`s life. why do you want her so bad? if you want her pray on her. and it is not right for you to disrespect her nor her mother cause you want a girl freind. leave her alone, and find somone else who mother does trust you. all your doing is slowly destroying a family. mother`s can make it really hard for a man. but live by the word of God and you will see the glory of what you are tring to get. I wouldn`t trust you either. what have you done that`s so great that someone can just trust you with doing the right thing by their daughter
2006-11-01 15:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be you "pleading" or in other words, spending time with Mom, and letting her get to know you.
Your gf won't make too much progress talking for you.
Her mother may have a mental image of placeing you in a certain catagory of individules.
Can't always say what is best about why you were broken up with, but if you feel she still likes you, try the Mom approach.
2006-11-01 15:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom was against multicultural dating i am white and brought a girl home of Indian descent she thought she was actually black at first (i stopped seeing her as it was too difficult living up to her standards). Eventually she warmed up to the concept and didn't have problems with me dating a Japanese girl and eventually marrying a Latina girl.
2006-11-01 15:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its a blessing for you that you two are over. If her mom dosent trust you due to racial issue's, why do you want to associate your self around such ignorance. Trust me, the girl did you a favor. There is no need for anyone to beg for someone to trust them, unless you F'ed up and then thats a different story.
2006-11-01 15:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, whoa, that chick is confused. I'm sorry that some people actually think that multcultural dating is wrong. It's not. I think you're right. If you're a good guy and if you care about eachother, why does it matter what race you are? Or where you come from?
2006-11-01 15:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kt Press 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always wrong to beg someone to like or accept you. It smells pathetic. You're better than that, so get off your knees and find a girlfriend with a non-psychotic mother.
2006-11-01 15:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make now? The relationship is broken, she made her choice, and you just have to deal with it and learn from it and move on and find somebody who is more interested in keeping you.
2006-11-01 15:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIND A NEW GIRL! There are to many girls out there! forget her...move on! When it comes to 'the family'....there is to much DRAMA that comes along with it! Save yourself grief and trouble.....find someone else without so much drama!
2006-11-01 15:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Proud MOM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are no longer an item. She made a choice so be wise and move on. Its not healthy to dwell in the past
2006-11-01 15:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋