i cut and i dont want to stop but i feel i should!?

Question

i cant realy talk to anyone about this i know, because even though i have told a few people, they say they understand but i know they dont, people are starting to notice aswell. and i have scars, is there any way of getting rid of them?i dont think i can stop now, is there ny way of not leaving scars? or minimalising the cutting, and ive tried writing things down but it isnt satisfying enough. im now known as an 'emo' an ideas?
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Answer 1

I'm sorry that you feel you can't stop your cutting. I cut too and am trying to cut down at the moment. Firstly, you need to realise that you are just dealing with stress.

If you feel better from the pain it causes try these alternatives to cutting:

1. Try having an elastic band around your wrist and flicking it when you feel the need to cut. (I sometimes leave bruises when I've flicked it so much but they soon go).

2. Ice cubes melting on the skin.

3. Hit your pillow over and over again.

If you feel better from seeing the blood try these:

1. Scribble on your arms or legs with a red biro and then wash it off. (It really helps me to do this).

2. Melt ice cubes (coloured with red food dye) on your skin.

These tips have really helped me in the past, hope they help you. As you don't feel ready to stop PLEASE try reducing the amount you are doing.

Answer 2

The only way to guarentee no scars is not to cut but I know that's easier said than done.

Firstly see you doctor, he can refer you to a counsellor or mental health professional to help you. You don't have to cut there are other ways to ease the pain.

In the meantime, don't cut deep, don't cut the same places over again, don't pick scabs, dress wounds properly.

Try writing things on a golf ball and go to the local driving range and beat the hell out of them or write them on a punch bag.

Self harm doesn't make you an 'emo', it makes you a person with no other way of coping. A professional will help you find another way of coping.

Answer 3

I some times do this too to get rid of stress, but I now have a better idea. I heard this from and advert, get some ice and hold it in your hand, the pain it causes is just as good and it does not leave scars.

Please stop cutting your self it is not a nice thing to do and there is nothing to do to get rid of the scars.

Answer 4

i myself self harm and there is an oil/cream to reduce the visibility of scars its called bio-oil, as for the giving it up i tried and it just made me more depressed so i continued and i started doing it less and less i dont know if this is the solution for u tho, a way to minimize scarring is not to cut as deep and if it doesnt satisfy u cut more. i no most ppl will think this is bad advice but unless they have been thru the pain they dont have any idea, if ur still worried, see a doctor.

Answer 5

I use to cut so I do understand and I still do on occasion- The inside pain I have is so great that to block it out I would cut to actually feel something else. I would use areas that are prone to accident like falling down - ect for my excuses or hide them under my shirt on my chest and stomach. I really do understand the cutting to feel something- just don't go to deep. Promise yourself you won't cut deep just enough to feel.
Hope you can heal on the inside what ever it is. I know I will never be able too. So good luck- and unless someone has walked in your shoes and lived what you have lived- scr*w the smart ****d remarkers back!

Answer 6

Dont feel pressurised to stop straight away, because the stress of this hanging over you may make it worse. I found that my self-harm decreased over time, so that I only do it infrequently now. The best thing to do would be to go to your doctor if you feel comfortable talking to them. If not, there on many young person's advisory services which you can access confidentially.

I have found that scars tend to go paler over time so they are not as noticeable. Bio-Oil is good but expensive. I have found Vitamin E oil is very good, and it is cheaper. Your doctor may also provide you with camouflage make-up. this matches your skin tone and has very good coverage.

Keep your chin up darlin, there's no magic fix . The only cure is time. xxx

Answer 7

I don't know if this will help but I used to cut myself too. I wanted to stop and thats how I managed. If you don't really want to then you probably won't be able to. I used to think about why I shouldn't do every time I wanted to and eventually stopped but I probably didn't do it as much as you. I still get times when it all gets on top of me and want to start again but I force myself to think about all the good stuff and why cutting myself wouldn't be satisfying any more. If you really want to you will be able to maybe seeing a counsellor would help. But in the end you have to want to stop. Good luck x

Answer 8

I know how you feel I used to cut myself, I never really got into it because I had people I trusted to talk to. The only way really to stop cutting is to seek professional help. I know you might not want to but if you do, you will have someone to talk to and you might actually feel better about whatever reason you cut for. The doctor you see also can not repeat anything that you say to them, unless you are threatening your life or someone Else's. Go get help if you really do want to feel better!

Answer 9

apartly holding ice in the palm of your hand tightly helps, or flicking an elastic band where you would usually cut, it gives the same sort of feeling but no scars, hope that helps, oh and continue writing things down so you can figure out what the trigger for your cutting is. good luck.

Answer 10

I had a young lad living here that was in the same position as you are, we talked a lot, and that seemed to help, and now he emails me whenever he's feeling a bit down, or just wants a gab, he's stopped hurting himself now, and were in the process of working on the marks that he has, I'm here if you want a chat, [e-mail], email anytime.