okay i have a boyfriend...and he tells me he loves me all the time. and that he cares for me so much. more than anyone else he has dated before. so here i am believe all of this. i believe him. but its just he treats me....not so good. ive never had to deal with a guy soing this to me! he yells at me for no reasons, threatens to slap me(just playing around but always does it) orders me to go see him or come to him like im a dog. and we use to talk on the phone for like 3 hours but now we barly tlak for 15 min. whats up with this? i try my best to just keep it to my self but when i do ask him aboout it he gets mad at me. i dont know why. but somehow it turns around on me. hes always telling me to be good like im going to cheat on him or something! and then there is this dude that i like ....been about for 1 year now that i use to talk to before my boyfriend well he broke up with his g/f and he gave me his number to call him......hes really sweet. what should i do????
2006-11-01 07:02:39 · 23 answers · asked by britni h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok I answered your last question about this subject...and now that I have a little more info I'm prepared to give you some more advice. Sounds to me like you do need to leave this guy! He seems like a complete a** ( sorry if that offends) No guy has the right to treat anyone like that...and to order you around or to hit you rather he is just threatening you to or not! Leave while you have the chance... before he gets worse.. and actually does start hitting you... which will lead to worse things! Good luck in everything!
Tee
2006-11-01 07:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the first guy and get the second guy on the phone. make sure he knows what is happening with the first guy. you need to talk to someone about him. he is obviously abusive. just think, if hes like this now, how bad would it be later on if you married him. you can't love him that much if he doesn't respect you. in a relationship there should always be at least three things; love, trust, and respect. if you don't have all of these three, its not a real relationship. also don't just go to the second guy while the first one is still your bf. this will only create bigger problems. well, there ya go. hope it helped some. good luck!
2006-11-01 15:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your current boyfriend sounds like a jerk, a controller and a future abuser if he is not already. Regardless of what or who is out there for you, you need to break it off with the jerk right now. Not tomorrow, not next week, dump him now. You do not deserve that from anyone and he will end up worse down the road if you continue. Don't jump from one relationship to another just because you break up, take your time and make sure the next guy you see treats you right.
2006-11-01 15:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is not easy to just get up and leave someone that your with. But you have to ask yourself do you really care about him? Even if this new guy didn't come into your life you should like about a different route. No one deserve to be treated like a dog. Maybe end your relationship and just talk to the second guy. It would be weird to just jump into another one.
2006-11-01 15:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by smile4love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care, he's just gotten used to saying he does. If he did, he would treat you better. You've been dating for a a year and he's just used to you. It will only get worse. I accidentally done this to a girl. I thought I cared but wasn't looking at things objectively enough. I eventually figured it out and broke up with her. It's not like I didn't like her at all, people are just creatures of habit. Save yourself, and maybe a friendship with him. I'm still friends with her today and now I'm more aware of these things. Everyone won.
2006-11-01 15:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly the same as my relationship except the liking another guy thing. I love my boyfriend with all my heart. And that is something i just will put up with because i love him. it sounds like you are on a plateu. like your stuck in a rut. a question you need to ask yourself is do you love him? Do the good times outweigh the bad? if not dont lead your boyfriend on any longer or he will be hurt more.
2006-11-01 15:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by raelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up w/ your boyfriend who you say treats you bad, threatens to slap you, and orders you to come to him like a dog. I'm not sure whether he loves you or loves to hurt you. Think about it. Don't you agree that you deserve better? Break up w/ the boyfriend and call the new guy. Ex to the next!
If you stick around and continue to complain, it's not longer his fault.
2006-11-01 15:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st thing...your man is crazy!! he's obsessive and you need to get away as fast as you can!! he yells at you...oh helll no!!! Don't allow it. It will never get better....2nd thing, If you take this guy's phone number nad ur man finds out, what do you think is going to happen?? he's gonna yell at you and probably slap you for real. Get your mind right and tell him what the deal is.
2006-11-01 15:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Virgo Fa Sho!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got issues you dont need to deal with. Step back look at the situation and ask yourself, If a friend told me this what would I say to her. Then follow your own advice. You already know something isn't right with the bastard's upstairs.
2006-11-01 15:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have got to lay all ur cards on the table and make a firm decision.does ur bf even trust you? do u trust him ? is this a relationship? can you work on it to make it better? have you told him bout the things he does to u that u do not like? can u even tell him those things without fear and trembling? do you like him or not ? Some questions u need to answer urself that no one else can answer for u.No one shud slap u around if they love you .Does this second guy really like you or ...
2006-11-01 15:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by PRETTY-BRAINS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋