I dumped a girl I went out with when she told me she kissed a girl before. Do you think I'm being too cold?

Question

She said she kissed a girl when she was in college few years ago and that she was drunk..blah..blah..blah...

I really thought she was the right girl for me but I don't want to date someone who even remotely crossed that line to lesbian world because I want a girl with good sense of values and morals. If I had consider her as a party girl then it would've been just one time thing but not someone I could fall in love with. So I dumped her before I could really get attached to her.

Answer 1

Oh come on. You dumped her for that? How silly. She was drunk, and it was a few years ago. Maybe she's changed. I'm sure you've done something immoral in your lifetime too.

And of course there is the chance it never happened and she was only trying to impress you. Some women have the dumb misconception that all men have a thing for bisexual women.

Answer 2

Okay so she had a bit of a curious sexual escapade in her rebellious youth. That doesn't mean she's going to start dressing in leather chaps and collecting L7 cd's. People do things while they are young they usually end up regretting later Girls Gone Wild will be evidence of this in about 10 years.

It's not that you're being cold it's just that you're overreacting to a legendary level. Think of it this way if you think of yourself as a moral person then are you not placing yourself ahead of God when you do not forgive or put away a past someone is not proud of?

Let it go. If she opened herself up to you and this is what happened you can wager she won't be as willing to open up to anyone about anything else again.

Also what's with the "party girl" and one time thing bit? Need to clarify a bit on that point.

Look it's like this i live in the south and i've dated "gasp" girls that weren't white "shivers" when girls i dated after the fact asked me about previous relationships or i told them the girl i just said hello to was a former lover they change almost automatically. It's kind of like what i told an old girlfriend of mine who broke down and cried that she regreted sleeping with so many people because now she's at the point where she wants to marry and when guys find out she's slept around they leave her. It doesn't matter who you loved before what matters is who you love now.

Lust is last on the list of the seven deadly sins. Pride is first on the list. Love which is the greatest virtue demands the supression of pride. Do not confuse honor with pride.

Answer 3

I'm pretty sure that's the dumbest reason i have ever heard for dumping some one. She kissed a girl once, in collage, and she was drunk when she did it. I think you made a huge mistake. She was trying to tell you more about herself and you freaked for no reason. I say climb out of the church and into the real world. You are judging someone on one innocent act years ago. Get over your self.

Answer 4

You're a selfsh controlling jerk who's too immature to be in a relationship. You claim you want "a girl with good sense of values and morals," well who the hell are you to be dictating morals to someone else? Huh? I assume you know the Bible, yes? Ever hear the phrase "he who is without sin, cast the first stone"? Are you without sin? No? Didn't think so.

I'd say she's much, much better off without you.

Answer 5

Man oh man are you a sad case who might end up alone collecting stamps with a bad case of arthritis on his right hand.
That was her past life, and girls tend to kiss other girls at parties for fun. Girls these do that because they are having fun, not because they are lesbians. My girlfriend kissed another girl before, who cares. As long as its not another guy, and as long as she comes home with me. You could be missing out on the right girl for you because you are so close minded.

Answer 6

YES. First, I think most guys generally sort of dig that kinda thing. I dated a few girls who had "experimented" and to be honest I think most girls do, and just don't admit it..or they have at least THOUGHT about it... so yeah, a little too cold. It doesn't mean she won't be completely turned on by you, infatuated, sprung, etc...want to sleep with you constantly, it won't have an effect like that....so I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 7

Yeah i think its kinda cold! Since it happen in the pass But Hey! I think most guys would find it a turn on seeing 2 girls kissing..Its just all good fun!

Answer 8

You did the right thing.

I don't agree with your views, but they are your views and you have every right to them. For me it's drugs, I won't be with anyone who does drugs or has done drugs, I don't care if they are a saint now. Again personally I don't think what your girlfriend did was that bad, but if it bothers you now, it might bother you down the line. Maybe it's better to go with your gut than pretend you are okay with it.

Answer 9

very well,at first stop blockading him,you dumped he so its on you,you should make it as a lot as him.communicate over with him and tell him the way you experience,the actuality and tell him how a lot you want him,if he nonetheless says no once you clarify how a lot he skill to you,he's not the guy if yours desires.

Answer 10

WOW..you are very conservative..I think its going to be hard to find a girl who hasn't explored a bit about herself..as long as she is straight now should be okay..she probrably told you because she trusted you..then you dumped her....most of my friends would never tell...yes i think you are a bit cold in the way you treated her.