i am really really trying, but i cant seem to get over the fact that my ex is pregnant by another guy. she was seeing another while still acting like we had a relationship. just the fact that she was having sex with someone else fumes me to no avail. plus the fact that she lied to me. i cant even put into words how angry and seething i am. and the worst thing is , she told me online. not even to my face or a phone call. and why even tell me at all. like i wanted to know that she was pregnant by another guy!! and keeping me thinking that we had a relationship. damn, how scandelous can a person get. and whats even worse, i think i still love her. she's all happy, having a baby and im here played out like a total fool and idiot and another guy is having her child. they probably laughing at me like i am a fool or something. taking another guys woman and having a kid with her. and she let it happen. man i got played out bad. i never cheated once. why all the lies??
2006-11-01 06:36:25 · 12 answers · asked by jjrr98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are separated and she is an ex, so that part is good .. .
Now you have your anger to deal with . . .
Try seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . .it might help you clear out some of those emotions, and you will be ready for a new relationship sooner . . .
2006-11-01 06:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The justice is that she is no longer with you. You could not trust her and she is a coward. Look into your heart and try to understand what you love about someone that you cannot trust.
Not to be rude, but I am sure that she and her boyfriend are not spending time talking about you. They have a child coming and for all you know he might run off and leave her.
Instead of fuming over her, look at the relationship you had with her and learn. She is dishonest and sneaky. You now have two traits that you do not want in a woman. While you have every right to be angry and need to go through that stage, do not lose yourself in that anger.
There are a lot of selfish people out there and now you have a bit more knowledge of what they look like. If you can avoid that type of girl, you will do much better next time.
Take care and Good Luck Finding a Real Woman,
Troy
2006-11-01 14:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so upset.you should be dancing in the streets.you said your self that she is scandalous, and lies alot.is that really the kind of women you want. you say you still love her.i say you do not love her.you love the person you THOUGHT she was. the next time you run in to them you should go up and shake his hand and say thank you now she is your problem. they may be laughing at you, but she will do the same thing to him as she did to you.so guess who will have the last laugh? YES YOU. don't feel bad about being played.we all have been played most of us more then once. besides there is a lot of good women out there that would love to find a good man. besides its true the best revenge is living well.
2006-11-01 14:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got every right to be angry about her cheating on you, and telling you about the pregnancy, but even though everything seems rosy for her now, it's probably not as romantic and wonderful as you think. Having (and raising) a baby is stressful..and how close could they actually be after such a short time? If indeed they are laughing at you now, how sad that they take their pleasure from other's pain!
Count your blessings, she was a cheater anyway. You deserve better.
2006-11-01 14:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Geronimo5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your story, but I kinda know how it feels. My X left me for another woman, who he swore never existed. We had been married for 9 years, and I later found out that he had been having this affair for at least 6 months before he told me he doesn;t want me anymore (denying that there was someone else). My advise to you is get on with your life. I know it seems hard now, but she is just screwing with your head. Let her go and it will get easier in time. And No. 1 - she is a slag for sleeping around on you and 2) She is a fraud and a immoral coward to do it on line. You are better off without her. The best revenge would be to find someone else, and be happy. Good luck Hon. She is not worth it!!!
2006-11-01 14:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the answer im about to give you is probably not the one that you want but the reason obviously is that she has not claimed her salvation which was given from The Great Father, of whoms name i may not say because of respect throught his first Son. Sin (which is disobediance to The Father) can cause persons to do alot of stupid things. I do wish you the knowledge and acceptance of The Holy Word of The Father, if you havent already done so, and if/when you do so you will understand the human mind and why people do things that normal persons can not understand.
2006-11-01 14:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by corney b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some/most females are evil and then blame the guy for what they did wrong. Don't sweat it. If you're a decent guy, you'll find someone better than a two cent hoe. And the guy is screwed because she'll probably leave him for someone else and take his kid away. Just be glad she's gone before she could pull a stunt like this on you.
2006-11-01 14:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by jessitinez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she did not love you... Keep your pride away from the matter at hand and it sounds to me that you are alot better off without her and pity the man she's now with... She will most likely do the same to him... It hurts and it sucks but there's nothing you can do about it except to save yourself and move on with your own life and be greatful that your not with her any more... She sounds like a nasty slut, is that really what you want???, no.. I don't think it is or atleast I hope not...
2006-11-01 14:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by sexton 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. Welcome to my world. There is absolutely no justice. It stinks, but there's nothing we can do about it. I'm really sorry to hear about that. You probably still do love her. God knows I still love my jerk of an ex-boyfriend... Eventually though, things will be ok.. fine. At least that's what I tell myself every morning when I wake up with that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach...
Good luck...
2006-11-01 14:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause she didn't really care for you in the first place. if she did she would not have cheated and none of it would have happened. move on....she doesn't deserve your love or you for that matter. look at it this way...he got the cheater and once a cheater always a cheater...so at some point she'll probly do the same to him.
2006-11-01 14:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋