What to do, what to do...?

Question

So, me and my man have been together for awhile, it's pretty serious and all that but it seams like things are falling apart. Yesterday I told him that I didn't know if our relationship was working out and he reacted ok, he was sad and all...so we spent the rest of the day together and it was like he was 100 times more attentive and considerate that he usually would be. He asked me to stay the night at his place so I did and the next morning when he was getting ready for work I told him that I thought we should try and work it out and he said, "ok, great" and he acted kind of pissed off when he left for work, he only gave me a kiss on the cheek and made our goodbye really short. I am wondering if he is ready to call it quits condidering two nights before this he didn't call at all and the next day he said he forgot cuz he went hunting with his friend, am I just being paranoid or what?

Answer 1

I think if you are honest you are looking for reassurance from him that he loves you and it's worth the effort. I'd call it a day, then ket him make the first move. If he rings you in a week begging for you, which he WILL if you leave him be, then think again!!

Answer 2

It seems like he is playing games with you. From experience if a guy starts to act funny basically not act the way he use to and all of a sudden just change ,he is silently trying to let you know that he doesn't want to be with you any more . If you think about it when you told him that you don't think that the relationship is working out he probably just pretended that he was sad. The next day you tell him that you do want to work it out he gets up set. I mean really what up with that. From experience some guys don't like to be the first one to call it quits especially if you guys didn't have a big arguement. What a guy will do is start to act real funny and mean till you decide that you can't take it any more and leave him. Once you guys break up no more than 2 weeks he will have some one else trust me I know.

Answer 3

The two of you need to evaluate the relationship. Was he just being sweet b/c you threatened to call off the relationship? If he can go that long w/o wanting to talk with you.......then what's the problem? I am not sure how long you've been dating him, you said awhile and sometimes during that in awhile time, the relationship can go sour. The worse thing that you can do is call the relationship off and then say it's back on again and then call it off again....I've been there. After while, the person will not take you serious. If you are tired of what he's doing then end the relationship but don't open it back up again.

Answer 4

When you're together a long time, things do get less steamy and romantic. It's just the way it is. If he seemed upset that you didn't want to break up, then maybe he is ready for a little separation. Talk to him, he's going to know how he feels more than we are. I'm in a relationship too, and have been for almost 4 years, it's still romantic and stuff like it was when we first got together, but not as much. My boyfriend still pays attention to me, and in the past when I've suggested taking a break, he never says ok, he's never ok with it, he always tries to hold on to me. I think if he really wanted you that much then that's what he would do too.

Answer 5

well, first, how long is "awhile"? second, he may have just been concerned and not pissed off. perhaps you made him think. if yall have fallen into a rut, maybe yall should just find a way to spice things up a bit. do something out of the ordinary. sometimes in a relationship, couples stop dating each other. life happens and we can sometimes lose track of things. as for not calling, yeah that would make me mad too. don't read too much into it just yet though. men don't always think like women do. want means one thing to us may not occur to them. give it time and do some serious talking. it's scary to let go of someone you've been with for "awhile". you get used to that phone call and having someone to cuddle up with. but, it's better to "be alone for the right reasons that with someone for the wrong ones." have fun and God Bless You and Yours.

Answer 6

Maybe the two of you should set down and have a good heart to heart talk. Let him how you feel about the relationship and what you expect from a relationship and in turn ask him the same questions. Sometimes people don't let their partner know how they feel or what is important in the relationship. Communication is very important!

Answer 7

Is too early to make decision. This is not perfect relationship. Showing some attitudes, or some ignorance is not going to make work better. He is cold blooded user. Give him credit for next 2 months - and see if if make sense.
Most successful partnerships are grate from the beginning.

Answer 8

well sometimes guys just need their space. they go and hang out with friends and not really care if they talk to us or not! my boyfriend has does that a couple of times and it catches me completely off guard so like you i become paranoid and start to worry are things ok??? just let things happen. be open and honest with how you feel! cuz if it does fall apart you dont wnt to regret anything!

Answer 9

Well of course he's pissed. First you say you want to break up, then you say you want to stay together. You're messing with his heart and it is difficult for him.
You need to make up your mind and stick with it. Don't threaten to break up with him just because he annoys or ignores you. Tell him that his lack of attentiveness hurts you and suggest ways for him to improve; if he does, great, if he doesn't, leave him. But don't be all passive-aggressive.

Answer 10

You obviously don't seem to happy. Isn't the point of a relationship to be happy?