is it wrong to tell your boyfriend when one of your girlfriends is bad mouthing him?

Question

i feel like i shouldnt have cause now he doesnt like her ,and she was the one that hooked us up. occasionally i call her for advice so she knows things that me and him have had problems with. well one day she just for no reason threw one thing up in my face out of nowhere, and i confronted him on it and when he asked me where did this come from , i said my girlfriend was saying this, and he says she should mind her business . i feel like i shouldnt have said anything , but i feel like she shouldnt throw these things up in my face for no reason either. i mean i went to her for advice not to throw something back up in my face when things are perfectly fine with me and him and make me mad at him again for no reason. what do you think

Answer 1

I don't think that you were wrong for telling your boyfriend about it. I know that I wouldn't allow any of my friends to bad mouth my b/f. I do, however, think that the things that go on in your relationship should stay within your relationship. If you're having problems with your relationship, talk to the person involved (your b/f) about it. Keep outsiders on on the outside. They will only make it worse and make it more than what it truly is.

Answer 2

This is sad, you threw a stone into some mud and now you're wondering why there's some dirt that fell on you.

When you go to a person, any person for advice, you hand over some amount of control over to that person. Over time, its understandable that such people tend to think they know whats good for you better than you yourself!

Be in control of your issues, your emotions and how you feel, think and react to situations. Just because someone said something somewhere it does not mean you have to react immediately.

You should have seen the gravity of her comment before you decided it was even important enough to mention to your bf. Now the biggest loser is you, you've broken the confidentiality of your relationship, you cant handle criticism of any aspect of your bf and worse still you go back to him for clarification! Your friend now knows enough to dislike your bf, your bf finds out what SHE thinks and will now discourage you from being friendly to her (knowing that she is not in his favour) and you are stuck in the middle. Not fun now is it?

No relationship is great. when we go to our friends usually its for advice about something gone wrong, we usually dont focus too much on the good stuff which also regularly happens. as a result, friends end up thinking this guy is bad for you, since they only hear about the confrontational issues. But thats not necessarily true.

try and be the judge of your relationship and its workings yourself. And when you cry help, dont be mad when someone responds.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If that's all it takes to cause an argument between you and your man, you need a new man. TRUST is number one in a relationship! Your man wasn't at fault, nor was your best bub. You were at fault, if you share intimate details of a relationship with someone else don't be surprised if they form a different opinion of the person YOUR mouthing on. Your relationship is your relationship, it should be kept that way. If you have issues with your man, talk to HIM. COMMUNICATION is number 2 in a relationship. Talk to him, work it out. Makes it easier to live a peaceful life.

Answer 4

GOOD NEWS: Friends are forever boyfriends are not
BAD NEWS: You are not a good friend that is going to start bad blood between you and her she is never going to trust let alone advise you if you need it ever again and she and the boyfriend are not going to get along ever again and then he might say he does not want you to hang with her and that will cause you problems

Answer 5

well... all i can say is keep ur pesonal business confidential