I have a couple of female friends who Im ok with. Ok it seems at first we are gonna be mmore than friends but I meet their parents, who seems to love me and suddendly Im put in the friend box. I know I was taught manners and all, and I get along with some of their parents so well , I cant help it moms beat manners into me . I dont mind meeting parents either they usually like me so much that they ask about me a lot. .
Suddendly after that, Im put into the friends box and rarely get called.
My question is this is it a negative for a guy to be liked by a girls parents weather its friendship or dating? I thought it was a good thing for parents to like a guy
2006-11-01 06:26:31 · 11 answers · asked by Arthur D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
looking for more answers oin this one
2006-11-02 01:42:17 · update #1
It really depends on how mature the girl is, and how she feels about what her parents think. You might be running into the ladies that rebel against anything their parents like; therefore they wouldn't want to date you- a perfectly acceptable young man. But, really its a great thing to be liked by parents, it will get you far, and shows that you have great character. Maybe now its inhibiting your life, but later on, when marriage comes around- that will come in sooo handy.
2006-11-01 06:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it's a difference from someones parents liking you and you becoming obsessed with getting someones parents to like you. However if your just the kind of guy with the manners to get the approval of a girls parents then your more than likely the "good guy" and when females are young they don't want a "good guy"! Have you ever herd the saying "Good Guys finish last"? It's relatively true. However I think to get over that you should go for the girls that aren't so popular and accepted. Believe me, the not so popular girls are just as pretty as the popular ones they just have a better view on things. They look for the "good guys" that won't break their hearts! And most aren't looking for boyfriends but can enjoy a "good guy" to be around which eventually turns into a good boyfriend!
2006-11-01 14:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by miss_peaches 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The guy that I fell head over heels for met my family and he was so shy but still polite and kept his manners and I didn't put him back in the friends box! I loved him and I LOVED that my parents were able to accept the one guy that I liked that much so... But some girls are weird and are trying to make their parents be fearful about them and who they are with - they are almost looking to displease their parents so that they can be happy. Weird, but some do it.
2006-11-01 14:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by curiousone 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to keep on doing what your doing, you will eventually meet a girl that likes you and the way your are with her parents. don't change because of your experience with the other girlfriends. maybe you are meeting the wrong girls. I know a few girls in my area that would love to have a boyfriend her parents liked. your doing a great job with your manners don't change, because it's not your fault it's the girls you meet. CHOOSE WISELY!!!
2006-11-01 14:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by hugabug72 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's best practices to be liked by a girls or guys parents. Don't change your mannerism style.....just wait for the right girl to come along who will understand you. Currently, I am single but when I do start dating I want to be liked by his parents as well as I want my parents to have a liking in him.
2006-11-01 14:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
everyone has there own thinking to each there own, when I was gorwing up I wish my parents would have liked just one guy I dated, but they didn't, my daughter now 12yrs old has a bf for the first time and I think its cute and I have meet him, but I explained to my daughter that I will not be too friendly with him so that she does not feel uncool about it, when meeting parents try not to be so awsome to them just be that regular guy that parents once in a while say hey hows that guy your seeing doing? Hope you get what I mean, just do not be too polite.
2006-11-01 14:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah but when your friends parents get involved then it is like Dang I am embrassed or really really shy and their asking me all these questions etc , But once you get used to the fact that the parents adore you , you will eventually get comfortable and that is not a negative thing or feeling that you should have !! I would not isolate you from being the person i call as a friend !
2006-11-01 14:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tabby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's alot of the girls too , they don't want to share the attention ! they want you to be able to focus on them ! NOT the parents. It's ok to be cool with the parents and so forth but do it on a lighter basis and save the heavy stuff for when you're married
2006-11-01 14:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its negative if the girlfriend thinks you are being a suck - might make some girls think you are weak.
2006-11-01 14:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My parents didn't care for anyone I dated. They would talk to em, but that's it. As soon as they left my parents would start dissing them.
2006-11-01 14:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋