People think being proper and mannerly and so.. clone like in their every day to day move is the best kind of person, there are even schools to train people in becoming such a duplicate of a person.
It's like these schools are hardwiring people to act as society thinks it wants them to act. People who are being trained proper most of the time do not mean what they do, they're only doing it to make themselves look good. People need to stop being fake and show their reality.
In a professional service, I'd rather be served by an individual in day to day clothing than be served by a clone in a tux.
What do you think? individuality or cloned proper behavior?
2006-11-01 06:24:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Taking a crap is reality... but no one else wants to see it.
2006-11-01 06:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're generalizing and narrowing it down to two choices when it's not that simple. Manners, in my opinion, are doing what you can to make the people around you feel comfortable. I can still be "me" and do this. Mannerly and fake aren't synonyms, by the way.
The example of servers in street clothes or tuxes doesn't have as much to do with manners as professionalism, which is another matter entirely.
2006-11-01 07:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by T. B. the Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for some reason, some people believe that the whole world would be a better place if we were all cookie cutter, predictable people. So we should all respond to situations the same way, so as not to offend or confuse, right? WRONG!
2006-11-01 06:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by lunachick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even what you call 'individuality' isn't really. it's still behavior copied from someone else, that's how we learn all our behaviors, is by seeing others do them. what you're talking about here is not so much about individualty as comfort zone. you're not accostomed to formal behavior, so it makes you uncomfortable. on the flip side, many people feel that 'proper' behavior is polite and respectful, and so they feel good when people are proper towards them, because it shows respect.
2006-11-01 06:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Deek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's proper yes.
There is a defining edge to behaving in a civilized manner in a civilization. Proper behavior and civilized manners go hand in hand with living in a dense populated city.
If you want to behave in an uncivilized manner then go live in an area where you don't have to deal with people much.
2006-11-01 06:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather have someone act properly toward me than improperly. Maybe what you mean is "formal" and I think that's okay too because when you don't have rules (unspoken or not) people make up their own and sometimes you have that nitwit who has to be TOLD how to act. They spoil it for the rest of us.
2006-11-01 06:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To use your term, all behavior is cloned. Proper or improper or anything in between.
2006-11-01 06:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think individuality..
it's dumb when people say "i love you for who you are" and then get so mad when that person is blunt.
speaking of which...people also say "i want an honest partner"..(mostly women) and then when they say "do you like my dress?" and the parter says "no"..they get pissed!
that's not loving the person for who they are..that's loving what they CAN be..
and there's a huge differance.
2006-11-01 06:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by pokerface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋