when I cannot but keep on thinking about the intimacy my bf shared with his ex-es. It's driving me nuts. He says he is mentally not involved with them, but cares for them. But he is cold and silent to me too.
2006-11-01 06:17:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you get into a relationship and everything feels right. Like you are with the right person and that everything is so great except for the fact that there is something there that you cant trust, or some little thing that does not feel right. Just if you could change him.. right. Make him stop thinking about his ex's and make him become this great, caring communicating, guy you want him to be.
Well think again. It is not going to happen. There is something in your heart that is making you go nuts and its called intuition. Believe me, intuition is much stronger than you think.
I was in a relationship with a guy for 12 years that was the same way. He loved me, I know he did, but he was unable to communicate which made him seem cold and there was always this mystery about him, something I did not trust, but I wanted so bad to open him up. Make a long story short, he cheated and I found out, god only knows how many times.
Well I am out of that relationship and with a person who I truly trust and am so happy. It is so nice to be in a relationship in which you can truly feel secure and safe in.
2006-11-01 06:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't bringing the same type of intimacy to you that he gave his ex's then I'd leave and find someone willing to do so. And maybe he isn't mentally involved with them, but with your constantly thinking about it (and bringing it up to him I'm gathering) is also driving him nuts. He probably just thinks you are jealous, and men don't like jealousy.
2006-11-01 14:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last line says it all. If he's cold an unresponsive, what are his good points??? Whatever your relationship is, it's not a relationship, move on......Stop wasting your time. Go out and begin to enjoy life...either independently or with another......
2006-11-01 14:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem i am trying to leave my boyfriend but i love him we have been together for a long t ime. i always tell my boy that i am leaving him. i try to see if he will come after me or just let me go. mine comes after me so trying doing that and see if he comes after or just lets you go if he lets you go than its time to move on.
2006-11-01 14:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by kittykat19889 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. because by staying with him you will hurt yourself.
2006-11-01 14:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Obria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
2006-11-01 14:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by TraxAttack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him
2006-11-01 14:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM !!!!!!! **** SOMEBODY ELSE, TRUST ME IT'S WORTH IT
2006-11-01 14:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋